This is something I've had in all of my personal ads, and it is something that is really important to me.
Communication, communication, communication. Talking honestly and openly about our thoughts, feelings, dreams, likes, dislikes, our successes, and our problems and ourselves is extremely vital to me.
It's really simple. While I am highly empathic, it only works when I am around people. I can't sense things from a distance. To put it in a more understandable way, I'm not a mind reader....not often anyways.
The people that I'm emotionally close to, I can't see as often as I like. So for me, the best way to maintain that closeness to to chat, talk, IM, email ect. on a regular basis. If someone is really busy & doesn't have the time for all the chatting, that's fine, I can totally understand that. A heads up is always appreciated. If someone is feeling blue, upset, angry, lonely or whatever.....I won't know until you mention it, and I can't do anything unless I know.
If people don't keep in contact with me, it's rare that I will keep trying to contact them. I know when I'm not wanted. I always figure that when they've got nothing else going on, I might pop up on their radar screen again. Or not. I've been trying real hard to *not* be chasing after people & forcing my attention on those that don't want it, or can't reciprocate for whatever reasons. It's *hard* for me, knowing that I'm not interesting to someone....it's a real battering to my self-esteem....which isn't that great in the 1st place. For me to keep waiting around, checking in, making contact....only to never connect with the person, or to be brushed off....that just plain hurts.
Friendships & relationships are 2-way streets, hopefully with both people meeting in the middle and doing equal shares of giving & taking. If I feel like I'm spending more time meeting someone on their side of the street, and if I feel like I'm the one giving more than taking......then I tend to be upset, hurt, and usually I'll withdraw. Selfish as it is....I gotta put me 1st. My ego can only take so much bruising before I wash my hands of it and walk away.