From Carmen

I'm not sure if Carmen is the author, or if she found this list elsewhere. I'm not sure if it's meant tongue in cheek or if it's a reaction to something personal, but I think it could be useable. 1. What are you looking for? - a play date - a sex partner for a roll in the hay - someone special - a long-term relationship - my soul mate - a spouse 2. What is the length of a long-term relationship? - Let's have one tonight! - six months - as long as it's fun and there are no conflicts - until something distracts me - as long as the sex is good - the rest of my life 3. What is safe sex? Check all that apply: - condoms for intercourse - condoms for fellatio - dental dams for cunnnilingus - latex gloves for manual contact with genitals - only having sex with people I've known for at least a week - only having sex with people who are not the V.D. kind of people 4. What does it mean to be fluid-bonded with a partner? Check all that apply: - I could go for that right here and now! - No barriers needed for any sexual activity with that partner - Condoms used for vaginal or anal intercourse with everyone else - Condoms used for fellatio with anyone else - Dental dams used for cunnilingus with anyone else - get tested, use protection for six months, then get tested again 5. What is a relationship breaker? Check all that apply: - requiring me to use condoms - refusing to have anal sex - insisting on seeing my STD test results before having unprotected sex - refusing to give me a latex-free blow job within two weeks of beginning the relationship - lying about one's sexual history - nonconsensual violence - telling my spouse about our relationship 6. What activities present an acceptable risk with multiple partners? Check all that apply: - kissing - holding hands - cuddling - unprotected cunnilingus - unprotected fellatio - unprotected rimming - unprotected vaginal intercourse - unprotected anal intercourse 7. What does it mean to be single? - not currently legally married - not currently having sex with my spouse - not living in the same residence with my spouse - not currently having sex with anyone - not currently having unprotected sex with anyone 8. If someone says, "You may not touch this part of my body until and unless it is explicitly negotiated", when may you touch that body part? Check all that apply: - on the second date - when I judge that the person won't object - when the person is in subspace - when the person is sexually aroused - after we've discussed it fully clothed and both people agree 9. When is it okay to push a stated limit? - Right away! - When your partner is naked and tied up - It's never okay; any stated limit should be scrupulously respected.