Beating the Dickens Out of You... Faire, Party or Both?

Anyone going? annual Victorian Kinky Christmas party at SF Citadel, in SOMA district of San Francisco 1277 Mission St at Ninth St Saturday, December 3rd, 2005 8pm – 1 am $20 ($5 discount if in Victorian garb or donating an ornament) http://sfcitadel.org http://groups.yahoo.com/group/EduKink http://edukink.tribe.net This is a very special Open Play Party, with a Holiday and Victorian theme. Many of us will first spend the day at the Dickens Faire, a reconstruction of Victorian London, as Charles Dickens saw it. Pay special attention to Mad Sal’s, the Dark Garden windows, and the Naughty French Postcards show (5:30). See http://dickensfair.com for info on the Faire, but they know nothing of the kinky party. Then we’ll wear our holiday finest to the dungeon, and help decorate the Citadel’s tree. And we’ll recreate kinky scenes inspired by the repressed sexuality of Dickens’ time. Certainly some dominance and submission. Perhaps a nice caning, or an over-the-knee spanking. They don’t call it “the English vice” for nothing. Whether you celebrate Winter Solstice, Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, or simply the snow season, come enjoy decking the tree with colorful ornaments and other pretties. We'll whip that tree into shape, and Top it with a dominant symbol of the season. Bring something to put on the tree or wear your finest Dickens Faire attire and get $5 off the evening's admission. Those who haven’t been to an event at SFCitadel should note that while this is a warm and safe environment, you’ll be exposed to people exploring some extreme erotic fantasies. This makes Postcards look quite tame. Participation not required (or offered). No RSVPs required. For work exchange, email volunteer@sfcitadel.org - - What past attendees have said: “A charming mix of kinky history and old fashioned debauchery.” “A highlight of the season. And the best dressed event.” “Amazing scenes involving corsets, canes, and hoop skirts.” - - “Victorian Kinky Christmas party” is part of a series of theme parties co-sponsored by EduKink and SFCitadel.

For MzMtnLion

Name 5 of life's simple pleasures that you like most, then pick 5 people to do the same. Try to be original and creative and not to use things that someone else has already used. Tag 5 people on your list. 1. Warm spring days with the smell of flowers & grass in the air. 2. Snuggling with my husband. 3. Long, rambling multi-topic conversations with 1 or more friends. 4. Being a certain clothing size & fitting nicely into clothing that has tags 2 sizes smaller. 5. Unexpected little presents, just because someone was thinking of you. 1. dr_moni 2. masochisticgrrl 3. venusrising 4. evilmommytina 5. ambar

Driven to Drink

I totally lost it at work yesterday. Sandra, my former boss, was on me from the get-go. We have an educational reimbursement program, and there's 1 part of it that the CEO told me to over-see almost a year ago. Through a company named CUNA, we can take on-line tutorials that cover a broad range of topics, as relates to credit unions. We have had this program with them since at least the early 90's, and as of this year, have been requiring the Board of Directors to take a bunch of classes over their multi-year terms (it used to be voluntary). The CEO decided that she wanted me to administer the on-line stuff & keep track of what the Board was taking, and to order new classes for them every other month or so. There's also 2 tracks of classes that employees of all levels can take, and the CEO wanted me to keep track of all that too, but we actually haven't had too many people taking advantage of that. Anyways....the employees, before they take any class, are supposed to submit an Educational Reimbursement Request form & have it approved before they even sign up for any type of classes. Usually, with school based, or other on-line programs, the employee pays everything up front, and then once they pass the class with a C or better, the credit union pays them back for whatever they spent on tuition & books (to a limit of $2,000 annual). However, it seems that CUNA has a slightly different way of doing things. They will bill you as soon as you sign up for a class, not after you finish it and take the test. There was some confusion on my part with this....it was my understanding that CUNA wouldn't bill us until after the class was completed....but that's neither here nor there. Former Boss-Lady didn't really know what was going on with the CUNA stuff....and didn't think she had the complete picture of who was doing what, and what we had authorized & paid for. So, I took all the folders from her & proceeded to update & organize everything.....as well as updating a spreadsheet that she was using to keep track of everyone who had been taking any sort of classes since 2000. The sheet had a few missing holes in it, as well as very little info for 2005, so I updated it & put the whole thing in a more readable format. Former Boss-Lady, after seeing my finished results.....got pissed at me for wasting my time, and for changing the format of her spreadsheet. She said that she was "deeply offended" that I would just go and change something of her. She said she realizes that she's leaving, but that doesn't mean that I have any right to change anything, until after she's gone....and that anytime anyone gives her spreadsheets or documents to work from, she never changes them.... After she got done, I left her office & went back to my desk. I took a few deep breaths and tried to calm myself down.....but it didn't work very well. I went into the CEO's office (my new boss) and just burst into tears. I told her that I was sick & tired of the way Sandra treated me & that I wasn't going to put up with it for much longer. I said that this has been going on for a long time, but that it's gotten worse since I was promoted & re-assigned out from under her. I told the CEO that Former Boss-Lady talks to me like she thinks I'm an idiot, and that she'll tell me to take on a project....and when I ask her how she wants things handled, she'll give me no input....but when I come up with a plan of action, she totally shoots it down...and still refuses to give me any input. My latest was Key Control. We have a whole lot (maybe 100) of keys that we're not sure where they go to...if they go to anything. Former Boss-Lady wanted me to find out where the keys went to, label the ones I could find matches for & throw out the rest. My 1st thought was to go through the keys, sort them out by what already had labels & what didn't....and then see if any of the keys had engraved codes on them that matched any of the codes on our Key Log. The rest I could generally figure out by type. All Steel keys went to All Steel desks & file cabinets, HON keys to HON cabinets....ect.....Well Former Boss-Lady didn't want me to do it that way. It seems that she pretty much wanted me to either psychically divine the information of what equipment/doors the keys went to....or to throw the keys out. So, Friday I dived into the project & was matching up the miscellaneous/unknown keys to a bunch of other keys that we actually have labeled and organized....and ended up finding matches for over 20 keys by then end of the day....some of the keys I found matches to, were assumed to be lost....and if I had just thrown them out....we might have ended up having to re-key the locks (kinda expensive) sometime in the future if no one in the company actually had a key to the locks. So anyways....I'm telling the CEO all of this, and I'm telling her that Former Boss-Lady has been drowning in work, but refuses to ask my help with anything but the most basic stuff. She keeps saying she doesn't have time to train me.....I said to the CEO, I'm 35-y/o, and college educated....I'm not an idiot & I don't need a whole lot of 'training'. I pointed out the fact that she & The Exec. VP have both given me projects over the years w/o a lot of explanations & have just expected me to figure it out...and have known that if I didn't understand something that I would ask for help....I said 'as far as I know, you 2 haven't had problems with how I accomplish your projects...' CEO said that as of 10/31, Former Boss-Lady shouldn't be giving me direct assignments anyway, that my work orders should be coming from the CEO, and that if Former Boss-Lady wants me to do anything, she should ask the CEO 1st. CEO said that she was going to find out what projects Former Boss-Lady is working on...what her timeline is for finishing them, and if she wants me to take anything over, she'll just give it to me, and let me handle it however I see fit. I also mentioned to the CEO that if she hadn't promoted me, that things had gotten so bad...that I was ready to put my resume online & start looking for another job. She said she pretty much figured that, and that was part of the reason she promoted me & re-assigned me. The final thing I touched on was my Former Boss-Lady's always saying that I have no people skills. I said to the CEO that she doesn't even begin to know about my people skills. I said that for months I had been biting my tongue & swallowing my frustration & anger....and that she had no idea of just how bad my temper was & how frustrated and upset I have been. I said if that is a lack of people skills....... And the title of this......one 6-shot mudslide type drink over ice after I got home.....and anyone who knows me.....knows that I rarely drink.

Best Damn Winter Holiday Display

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More Questions

1. Who are you? 2. Are we friends? 3. When and how did we meet? 4. Do you have a crush on me? 5. Would you kiss me? 6. Give me a nickname and explain why you picked it. 7. Describe me in one word. 8. What was your first impression? 9. Do you still think that way about me now? 10. What reminds you of me? 11. If you could give me anything what would it be? 12. How well do you know me? 13. When's the last time you saw me? 14. Ever wanted to tell me something but couldn't? 15. Are you going to put this on your LJ and see what I say about you?

Maybe I'll Re-Think That

My appointment at the Hayward Kaiser tonight was actually......pleasant (and I went in to get the bits poked at). The doctor was very professional, talked straight with me. Not 1 comment about my weight, not 1 comment about my lack of children. He asked if I was interested in getting my cholesterol & thyroid check tonight, I said sure I'm here...why not. All in all....if this doctor is typical of the Hayward staff....I think I'll be revising my opinion of Kaiser.

Why I have issues with Kaiser (Fairfield anyways)

The first time I went to Kaiser in Fairfield, around May 2002, it was determined that since I have 5 tattoos....I'm a walking STD factory & needed to be tested for everything under the sun except for AIDS. When I asked them to tack on an AIDS test they said 'why do you think you have it?' I'm sure they were surprised to find out what I already knew....I'm squeeky clean. The Kaiser in Fairfield has me listed as 'morbidly obese.' I know I'm overweight....but morbidly? Maybe I'd agree if I was 200++ pounds overweight, instead of the 100 I was at the time I first saw them. The female medical professionals in Fairfield that I dealt with....weren't exactly slender themselves....so it's hard to take weight loss advice from someone who could stand to lose 50 pounds themself. The last time I dealt with the Fairfield office (Spring 2004 I think), I was lectured for over 10 minutes regarding the benefits of having children & why I should be doing my duty as a married woman by having them. So....to the present...On 11/4/05, went to the Kaiser website and ordered my baby-repellant online....like I have been doing since August 2004. Like I have always done, I requested it to be mailed to me & have my bank account debitted. Once I was finished, I printed up the confirmation page which stated that the order was received & that I should be getting the pills in the mail around the 12th. So...the 12 comes & goes...no pills. I hop on-line Sunday, and click to check the status of my order...."we have no record of your order." Um....Huh??? So I emailed their Member Service Center with the problem, trusting that I'd get an email or phone call today. By 4:30 PM, nothing.... So, I called the advice nurse, & asked for advice. She kindly informed me that since I'm due to get my girly-bits examined...they will not refill my baby-repellant until after I get my bits poked at. Then she tells me that the next available appointment is in December... Um.....no, that's not acceptable. But that's the 1st available appointment in Fairfield....um, wait a minute, I don't live in Fairfield any longer. Well you never selected a new primary provider....so we just assumed....I told her that frankly, due to the embarrassing & humiliating lectures that I received from the Fairfield staff regarding my weight issues & my lack of procreation....I was less than enamoured with idea of getting another permanent doctor. She at least was able to tell me that if I didn't like my new doctor, I was free to change anytime, as many times as I wanted.....which was nice to know, since when I joined Kaiser in 2002, I was told that once I picked a doctor, I was stuck with that doctor....period. So I said to the Advice Nurse...Fine, send me to someone in Martinez, Walnut Creek, or Hayward...whoever has something open the soonest. How's this Thursday at 6:45 PM in Hayward? Perfect, I'll take it. So tell me.....wouldn't it have been better to send some sort of reminder notice, say a month or 2 before I'm due for my annual poke-and-prod, instead of yanking my prescription...and now completely throwing me off cycle, since I won't be taking any pills for at least a week??? I mean, sheesh, they send out the mammogram reminders pretty regularly (according to my boss, who has gotten 2 reminders in the last 3 months).....

Only a Few Will Care

RIP Eddie Guerrero 1967-2005 http://www.wwe.com/

Stolen from 1 of my favorite redheads

1. ONE OF YOUR SCARS HOW DID YOU GET IT? Climbed onto a counter to get a plate out of the cupboard. Slipped getting down & smashed my mouth into the corner of the counter & have a small scar on my lower lip. 2. WHAT IS ON THE WALLS IN YOUR ROOM? 2 pictures - 1 of a raccoon struggling to stay on a branch & the other an oil painting of a witch. 3. WHAT DOES YOUR CELL PHONE LOOK LIKE? Red metal flip phone, kind of reminds me of Star Trek communicators. 4. WHAT MUSIC DO YOU LIKE TO LISTEN TO? Heavy metal, industrial, modern rock, celtic 5. DO YOU KNOW WHAT TIME YOU WERE BORN? Sometime around 3 PM 6. WHAT DO YOU WANT MORE THAN ANYTHING RIGHT NOW? To have enough $$$ so I can stop stressing over finances.....and a girlfriend. 7. WHAT DO YOU MISS AT TIMES? My sanity? 8. WHAT IS YOUR MOST PRIZED POSSESSION? My car 9. WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE SMELL(s)? Vanilla, roses, sandalwood 10. DO YOU GET CLAUSTROPHOBIC? Sometimes at very crowded parties. 11.IF YOU DIED TOMORROW: I'd be wondering if anyone missed me, & if I really made a difference. 12. THE LAST PERSON WHO MADE YOU CRY? My boss 13. WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE COLOGNE / PERFUME? I prefer essential oils, but I like Old Spice, Obsession & Opium. 14. WHAT KIND OF HAIR DO YOU LIKE ON THE OPPOSITE SEX? I don't really find the opposite sex interesting enough to care about their hairstyle. 15. WHERE CAN YOU SEE YOURSELF BEING PROPOSED TO AT? Well, I was proposed to in bed, after making love...and again the next morning, so I'd know he meant it. 16: DO YOU LIKE PORN? Yeah, if it's not too cheesy. 17. WHO IS THE LAST PERSON YOU MADE MAD? That *I* made mad? Probably Rik. 20. DO YOU SPEAK A DIFFERENT LANGUAGE? Un poco espanol. 21. WHAT WAS THE FIRST GIFT SOMEONE EVER GAVE YOU? Ever?? Probably had to be a book of some sort. 28. WOULD YOU FALL IN LOVE KNOWING THAT THE PERSON IS LEAVING? Define leaving....in a month, no. In a year, probably. 29. WHAT IS THE BEST WAY TO TELL SOMEONE HOW MUCH THEY MEAN TO YOU? Walk up to the person & say "do you know how important you are to me?" 30. SAY A NUMBER FROM ONE TO A HUNDRED: 13 31. BLONDES, REDHEADS OR BRUNETTES? All of the above...1 of each? :) 32. WHAT IS ONE NUMBER YOU CALL OFTEN? Vicki's cellphone 33. WHAT ANNOYS YOU MOST? People who lie, or who are intolerant or who are hypocrites 34. HAVE YOU EVER DONE A PRANK CALL? Yep! 39. WHAT WERE YOU DOING BEFORE YOU FILLED OUT THIS SURVEY? Reading Live Journal. 40. IF YOU COULD GET PLASTIC SURGERY, WHAT WOULD IT BE? I suppose it would depend on what I looked like when I finished losing weight. 41. WHY DID YOU FILL OUT THIS SURVEY? Because these things amuse me. 42. WHAT DO YOU LIKE ON YOUR PIZZA? Papa Murphys - Garlic ranch sauce, chicken, bacon & cheese 43. WHAT WOULD YOU DO IF ALCOHOL BECAME ILLEGAL? Actually, I think I would be a little happy. I've had too many alcoholics in my life. 44. WHAT DO YOU WANT FOR YOUR BIRTHDAY? Gift certificates are always nice. 45. WHAT WOULD YOU DO IF IT SUDDENLY STARTED RAINING? Nothing 46. WERE YOU NAMED AFTER ANYONE? Not that I know of. 47. DO YOU WISH ON STARS? Sometimes 48. WHICH FINGER[S] IS YOUR FAVORITE? Index 49. WHEN DID YOU LAST CRY? I'm not sure exactly, within the last 2 weeks. 50. DO YOU LIKE YOUR HANDWRITING? No, but I don't care enough to make it more legible. 51. WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE LUNCH MEAT? Turkey. 52. ANY BAD HABITS? Eating too much. 53. WHAT IS YOUR MOST EMBARRASSING CD ON THE SHELF? Maybe bagpipe music. 54. IF YOU WERE ANOTHER PERSON, WOULD YOU BE FRIENDS WITH YOU? Yeah, I think so. 55. HAVE YOU EVER TOLD A SECRET YOU SWORE NOT TO TELL? Yeah 56. DO LOOKS MATTER? Not really. 57. HOW DO YOU RELEASE ANGER? Listen to loud music 58. WHERE IS YOUR SECOND HOME? My imagination. 59. DO YOU TRUST OTHERS EASILY? Not really. 60. WHAT WAS YOUR FAVORITE TOY AS A CHILD? Barbies 61. WHAT CLASS IN SCHOOL DO YOU THINK IS TOTALLY USELESS? Basket weaving? :) 62. DO YOU HAVE A JOURNAL? I have Live Journal, and a paper journal that I kept from 17-23. 63. DO YOU USE SARCASM? When appropriate. 65. WHAT DO YOU LOOK FOR IN A GUY/GIRL? That it is a girl, and that she's intelligent. 66. WHAT ARE YOUR NICKNAMES? Bitch? 67. WOULD YOU BUNGEE JUMP? It looks fun, but I'm not sure I could get the guts up for it. 68. DO YOU UNTIE YOUR SHOELACES WHEN YOU TAKE OFF YOUR SHOES? Yes 69. DO YOU THINK THAT YOU HAVE STRONG POINTS? Yes 70. WHAT'S YOUR FAVORITE ICE CREAM FLAVOR? B&J Karamel Sutra 71. What is your shoe size? 10-11, depending on type 72. WHAT ARE YOUR FAVORITE COLORS? Purple, Burgundy 73. HOW MANY WISDOM TEETH DO YOU HAVE? None 74. WHO DO YOU MISS MOST RIGHT NOW? No one really, the people I'm closet to live with me. 75. DO YOU WANT EVERYONE TO ANSWER THESE QUESTIONS? Everyone? That's a lot of reading I'd have to do. 76. WHAT ARE YOU LISTENING TO RIGHT NOW? The buzzing of various electronics. 77. LAST THING YOU ATE? Dinty Moore Beef Stew mixed with Campbell's Tomato Ranchero 78. LAST PERSON YOU TALKED TO ON THE PHONE? Rik 79. THE FIRST THING YOU NOTICE IN THE OPPOSITE SEX? I don't much notice the opposite sex. 80. DO YOU LOVE THE PERSON WHO POSTED THIS? Love? No, but I think if we got to know each other better, I could love her in some way. 81. HOW ARE YOU TODAY? Cold, but happy. 82. FAVORITE DRINK? Chai tea 83. FAVORITE ALCOHOLIC DRINK? Mudslides, with extra chocolate 84. WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE SPORT? I like watching professional ice skating & pro-wrestling. I don't like participating insports. 85. HAIR COLOR? Dark Red 86. EYE COLOR? Blue 87.DO YOU WEAR GLASSES? Nope, got Lasik a few years ago. 88. SIBLINGS? None that I know of, I'm adopted. 89. FAVORITE MONTH? July 90. FAVORITE FOOD? Indian & Chinese 91. LAST MOVIE YOU WATCHED? Exorcist The Beginning 92. FAVORITE DAY OF THE YEAR? Halloween & Christmas 93. ARE YOU TOO SHY TO ASK SOMEONE OUT? YES!!! 94. SUMMER OR WINTER? Summer 95. HUGS OR KISSES? Depends on who you are. 96. RELATIONSHIPS OR ONE NIGHT STANDS? Relationships 97. WHO IS THE MOST LIKELY TO ANSWER THESE QUESTIONS? Anyone who's as bored as I am? 98. WHO IS THE LEAST LIKELY TO ANSWER THESE QUESTIONS? Rik 99. WHAT BOOKS ARE YOU READING? Gibson & Sterling - Difference Engine 100. WHAT'S ON YOUR MOUSE PAD? I don't have one. 101. FAVORITE BOARD GAME? Monopoly & Risk. 102. WHAT DID YOU WATCH ON TV LAST NIGHT? Myth Busters 103. WHO WERE YOU WITH LAST NIGHT? Rik & Vicki 104. WHAT IS THE FIRST THING YOU THINK OF WHEN YOU WAKE UP? I'm not conscious enough to be thinking. 105. SAY SOMETHING NICE ABOUT THE PERSON WHO POSTED THIS? Courtney is a lovely person & a good friend.

Guess What? It's a MEME

1. Sleep with or without clothes on? Depends on the weather. At the very least, I usually have panties on. 2. Prefer black or blue pens? Purple 3. Dress up on Halloween? Always, and not just on Halloween. 4. Like to travel? Yeah, rarely can afford the places I really want to go to though. 5. Like someone? Shall I start naming names? C, L, M, N, J... 6. Do they know? Most likely....I'm not terribly subtle. 7. Who sleeps with you every night? My husband 8. Think you're attractive? Sometimes 9. Want to get married? I AM married, over 11 years now. 10. To? The guy I married seems to be doing ok so far. :) 11. Are you a good student? Yeah 12. Are you currently happy? Yes, for the most part. 13. Have you ever been skinnydipping? Yes 14. Birthplace? Roscommon, Michigan 15. Christmas or Halloween? Christmas for the presents, Halloween for the freak factor. 16. Colored or black-and-white photo? Depends on what the picture is of. 17. Do long distance relationships work? Not for me personally. 18. Do you believe in astrology? A little 20. Do you believe in love at first sight? I used to. 21. Do you consider yourself the life of the party? Not even close. 22. Do you drink? Not often. Alcoholism runs in the family, so I try to keep it to a minimum. 23. Do you make fun of people? Not where they can hear me. :) 24. Do you think dreams eventually come true? If you work for them, yes. If you expect them on a silver platter, no. 25. Favorite fictional character? Oh hell, too many to think of. Scarlett O'Hara for starters. 26. Go to the movies or rent? Depends on the movie, usually rent since movies are so expenisve. 27. Have you ever moved? 7/70-9/89: Michigan, Indiana, Illinois, Indiana, South Dakota, Kansas, Oklahoma, Arizona, California, Arizona, Michigan 9/89-Now: California (12 times since 9/89, all Greater Bay Area) 28. Have you ever stolen anything? Yes 29. How's the weather right now? Cold & dreary 30. Hug or kiss? Depends on who wants one, both if it's someone I really like. 31. Last person you talked to on the phone? Rik, getting grocery list. 32. Loud or Soft Music? Loud, preferably heavy metal or industrial 33. McDonalds or Burger King? KFC 34. Night or day? Night 35. Number of Pillows? Either 1 really fluffy one, or 2 thinnish ones 36. Piano or guitar? Piano 37. Future job? Sex Education of some sort 38. Current job? Human Resources, benefits & compensation 39. Current love? Life 40. Current longing? To be ravished by several of the women on my friends list. :) 41. Current disappointment? Not having my BA in Human Sexuality & opening my bookstore. 42. Current annoyance? The VP of HR at my job 43. Last thing you ate? Homemade burrito type thing with ground beef & turkey. 44. Last thing you bought? Fixings for the dinner in #43. 45. Most recent thing you are looking forward to? Party this coming Saturday 46. What are you hearing right now? Supernatural on WB 47. Plans for this weekend? The party mentioned in #45, and cleaning out my closet. 48. What did you do today? Worked, then worked out.

Halloween with the Cary's

http://www.perfessorevil.com/halloween_2005.asp