So, after looking at all my BDSM oriented email lists, groups, and tribes.....I realize this is the only place I can say what I want, and
not have to deal with the person who is my topic of discussion.
For a few years now, there has been a certain male DM who, for some reason, has had it in for me. Several times he has tattled on me to various dungeon owners.....and when he's at a party that Vicki & I are at.....he will
stare at us to the exclusion of anything else.....
INCLUDING doing any actual DM work.
He'll be wearing the DM badge, and carrying the First Aid bag.....but as he wanders around the dungeon, he always keeps his eyes on us.
1 time, this DM lectured me about chaining Vicki's collar to a rope wall at the San Jose Scenery. Now, picture this if you can. The collar had a ring on the front, and the padlock ran through the ring & rope. If Vicki leaned back, the collar was pulled
AWAY from the front of her neck. If she was standing straight or leaning forward, the collar was in a neutral position around her neck. The key was within easy reach of
anyone, hanging in plain site on a post that was part of the wall. The DM tattled on me to Larry, who spoke with me. It turned out that several weeks before, someone had a bad ending to a scene, and nearly passed out because their neck was connected to that same wall.....and they nearly choked.
When I showed Larry what the set-up was, he admitted that I
was being somewhat safer, and that it would be difficult for Vicki to end up in the same unfortunate situation as the other scene.
Another incident was when Spring had injured herself at the San Jose Scenery. Spring refused to go to a doctor or emergency center several times. Since Spring is a legal adult, we could not force her to get professional medical attention. If she would have gone, and told them she didn't want help, they'd just send her on her merry way. Anyways, the DM stalked over to me and informed me that since I was Vicki's owner, I should "order her" to take Spring to the hospital.
The silliest was a month or so ago. After checking around, to make sure there were
NO signs upstairs at the Citadel, prohibiting food upstairs.....I got a small piece of cake & used the frosting in my scene with Dana. I made sure the food went no where but on Dana & in my mouth, and I double checked for crumbs before we vacated the space. The DM tattled on me to August, one of the owners of the Citadel. When August spoke to me, I told her that we were upstairs, and that the cake was a part of the scene. I told her that I looked for a sign saying "no food", but that I didn't see one. August told me that food was OK upstairs, as long as you cleaned up after yourself, but
not downstairs because of the carpeting. I thanked her for clarifying things for me & promised to make sure I kept things neat & clean if I used food again.
The most recent incident was this weekend at the Dog & Pony Party at the Citadel. Vicki was in a iron stock-type contraption. A separate circles of metal were around her wrists & neck, with a bar separating each part. Something like this.....o-----O-----o. Anyways, Vicki and 2 of our friends wanted to go downstairs. The DM was in front of us, and warned us that Vicki shouldn't walk downstairs alone. The DM went first, then Girl #1, then Vicki, then me, then Girl #2. Girl #1 was 1 step ahead of Vicki, and I was 1 step behind, and we all walked slow, so that Vicki could keep her balance. After a while, I decided to go upstairs and get out of my corset. I told Vicki and the 2 girls that I was heading up. After I was already changed, the 3 of them came back up, 1 girl ahead & behind Vicki, making sure she was OK on the stairs.
Not more than 5 minutes after they all got back to me, the DM started berating me for leaving Vicki
"ALL ALONE" to walk down & up the stairs
"COMPLETELY" by herself. I told him that during both trips, she had at least 2 people spotting her, and ready to grab her if she tripped.
The DM then proceeded to go tattle on me to Phil, one of the owners of the Citadel. Phil took me aside and asked if what the DM said was true. I said 'no', that Vicki was accompanied both times, and her safety was being watched out for. Phil told me that he wasn't trying to single me out, but that because they haven't finished putting the textured tape on the stairs, they like to let people know about the potential hazard, so that they can be extra careful.
I let Phil know that I understood, however, I also told him that the DM had a personal issue with me, and that he might want to watch him sometime......I told Phil about the DM's habit of watching Vicki & I, instead of DMing.
I'm at my wit's end. This DM has had a problem with me, ever since he met me....and to be honest, I'm not really sure why. Is it because I don't find him interesting/attractive? Is it that he knows I don't much care for males...and he takes issue with that? Is he one of those dom types who has issue with females who ID as anything but submissive?
I've don't think I've been mean or bitchy with him. Mostly I've just been coolly polite....which is how I am with most people that I'm not friends with.
I suppose the 'adult' thing to do would be to confront him and find out what his problem is....but to be honest, I don't even want to be near him long enough to talk to him. He makes my skin crawl, and judging by the way he's treated me thus far....I get the feeling that my attempt at reconciliation would be in vain.
