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You're femme. No one's ever called you 'Princess,'
but no one's ever confused you with a guy,
either. You attract both men and women. You're
just as comfortable in heels and cosmetics as
you are in jeans and a t-shirt. You like fancy
things, but you don't live for them. You'd
prefer not having to fix things if there's
someone else around who could do it, but you're
not above lifting a screw driver if you have
to.

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I am 47% Asshole/Bitch.

I may think I am an asshole or a bitch, but the truth is I am a good person at heart. Yeah sure, I can have a mean streak in me, but most of the people I meet like me.

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Seperate Reply to Comments

After reading the comments to my last post...I thought it best to give some more details. Maybe I'm just being too sensitive....anyone reading the chat room, not knowing the history between the woman & I, would just think her partner was just being a goof. 1 comment - I was trying to remember someone's name that me & the woman I was talking to knew. I'm bad at remembering names. Anyone who has been around me often enough knows that. So, I made a joke about having such a bad memory that I have to have my own name tattooed on me. The woman's partner then broke in with 'what you're too stupid to remember?' Another comment - The woman & I were talking about recent changes to our looks. I mentioned that I have dark blonde hair now (when she last saw me it was dark burgundy). Her partner then starts making the typical dumb blonde jokes, only finding ways to apply them to me. All of the comments he was making were in that vein....seemingly joking, poking fun, but not necessarily purposely insulting.....or in my terms....plausible deniabilty.

Ignore it?

So here's a 'what do you do if' question, with a couple of slants to it. What happened to me....I was in #bdsm-sfbay last night. A woman with who I had a falling out with a year ago, started talking to me. Since it's not really my nature to just ignore someone when they are talking directly to me, I replied...and we had a polite little chat. Intermingled with our chat, and the general chatter of the room....her submissive partner kept insulting me & making cracks about me. I just ignored it. As far as I know, the submissive does not actually know me....and any opinion they might have of me, has of course been influenced & shaped by the opinion of their partner....and whatever denegrating comments/stories their partner has related about me. While these comments were being made, the partner would either laugh or just ignore the comments. So....the point of all this....was this a typical thing? If your partner (whether dom or sub I guess) was being insulting to other people, would you just ignore it, or would you gently ask them to stop &/or suggest that they express their opinions in a more private setting? Dom-types, would you say something to your submissive-type partner in this situation, or would you let it go? WOuld you apologize to the person who was being insulted? Sub-types, how would you feel if you were 'corrected' by your dom-type partner? Would you apologize? Would you escalate the situation? Any-types, is it a typical thing to just start insulting someone you haven't even met, and you just know of based on the stories of someone else? Would you think that maybe the other person's opinion was colored by the bad experience & try to find out if the other person might actually be a decent human after all?

You call this Hell?

The Dante's Inferno Test has banished you to the Seventh Level of Hell!
Here is how you matched up against all the levels:

Level	Score
Purgatory (Repenting Believers)	Very Low
Level 1 - Limbo (Virtuous Non-Believers)	Very Low
Level 2 (Lustful)	Very High
Level 3 (Gluttonous)	Very High
Level 4 (Prodigal and Avaricious)	Very High
Level 5 (Wrathful and Gloomy)	High
Level 6 - The City of Dis (Heretics)	Very High
Level 7 (Violent)	Very High
Level 8- the Malebolge (Fraudulent, Malicious, Panderers)	High
Level 9 - Cocytus (Treacherous)	Very High

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Just a Pondering

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Rhetorical I suppose

I used to be one of those people that 'everyone' would be nice to....but as soon as I left the room....they'd laugh at me & talk about me & say what they really thought about me. Some people....had the balls (and integrity I suppose) to actually tell me to my face that they didn't like me.....some of that subset would even tell me why. We were all in our late teens & early 20's at that time......I would hope that doing things like that would be something that a person would outgrow....that a person would learn to be genuine with everyone. If you don't like someone, either be cordial with them, or just plain ignore them. If someone asks you to tell them their opinion of you....be honest, but not necessarily brutal. Why gloss things over & pretend? It doesn't help the other person change or grow....and generally...if the person thinks you actually do like them.....you'll find that they'll be a pest & you can't get rid of them..... It's been said that honesty is the best policy.....but how many people actually are honest about things like this?

Now I know my ABC's

Stolen from VenusRising A - Accent: I'm warshing the dishes ya'll. B - Breast size: 40DD C - Chore you hate: All of them D - Dad's name: Thomas E - Essential make-up: lipstick F - Favourite perfume: Opium G - Gold or Silver?: gold H - Hometown: Live in Hayward, born in Roscommon, MI I - Insomnia: That's what I take Melatonin for J - Job title: Human Resources Assistant K - Kids: Husband L - Living arrangements: Own house w/ husband, cat & dog M - Mum's birthplace: Muskegon, MI N - Number of apples you've eaten: I prefer applesauce, cinnamon at that. O - Overnight hospital stays: Maybe 2....tonsilectomy & tubes in my ears P - Phobia: Being unwanted/unloved R - Religious affiliation: Pagan, Anton LaVey verson of Satanist, Wiccan S - Siblings: Adopted, none that I know of T - Time you wake up: 5:45 AM M-F U - Unnatural hair colours you've worn: Electric Blue, Purple, Teal V - Vegetable you refuse to eat: Lima Beans W - Worst habit: Over-eating & under-exercising X - X-rays you've had: feet, ankle, hand, collarbone, upper GI, back, neck Y - Yummy foods you make: 3 Sneeze Chicken Z - Zodiac sign: Leo

The Solution - Doing Your Best

I don't know who to attibute this to....it was on a piece of paper amongst some of my stuff, with no author listed. Do I live by it....not very well, but it's motiviational if nothing else. I know everyone at one point or another wants to come up with as many arguments as possible to dispute the fact that they are not giving it their all to be doing their best and living up to their potential. Well, it’s time to quit the debate on this one vital point and realize that life begins and things happen when you stop doubting and disbelieving and start planning and doing. You see it’s easier to sit around and get worked up over all the fear, uncertainty and doubt that exists in the world today – this is also the best way to become permanently disabled and lock up your unrealized potential for life. However, it’s quite another thing to discard the fears you have and focus on the doing and being part of life. I know there are a lot of people around today going on diets to lose weight. But I think they’re on the wrong diet. We need to start losing the mental baggage we insist on carrying around and start focusing on the things we want and what it’s going to take to get there. We need to start seeing the green lights of the world and stop focusing on the caution signs. You all know wheat I’m talking about, don’t you? So let’s get on with it. Start right now by committing this promise to your character – repeat after me: I promise myself I will approach each day with the willingness to improve my attitude, actions, discipline, knowledge and skill. I promise to improve my results in the course of each day to get where I want to go. I promise to focus on the positive results I achieve and not worry about the mistakes of yesterday or the failures of the future because I know I will win. I promise to commit myself to believing in one person I know will see me through the roughest seas – me. I will. I promise to live life each day to my fullest potential because I do not know its length or outcome, nor will I ever. I promise to give of myself to others in a way that I want to be received – and they will benefit. I promise to plan each day as though it will last forever because a life without vision has no tomorrow. And finally, I promise to give so much to the improvement of myself that I have no time to worry about what others do. For my goals is to make this world a better place because I have lived and given my life my best. I will. No Risk = No Return Prioritize Do It Now Great Service = Great Reward Success Is 98% Mental Integrity Rock The Boat Take On The World’s Best

Lazy or just pathetic?

I want to go shopping. I've got a gift certificate for Lane Bryant, there's some tops I want at Old Navy, and Torrid, just because... Hillsdale Mall in San Mateo & Valley Fair in San Jose has all 3 stores. Southland in Hayward, NewPark in Newark and Stoneridge in Pleasanton have 2 of the 3..... Why don't I just get off my ass & go? Because, I don't feel like shopping alone.

Reasonably Accurate

You Are the Individualist

4 You are sensitive and intuitive, with others and yourself. You are creative and dreamy... plus dramatic and unpredictable. You're emotionally honest, real, and easily hurt. Totally expressive, others always know exactly how you feel.

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Remembering Dreams

This will be a tease, because I'm just not ready to spill all the details....and I don't know if I ever will to more than a select 2-3 people. I had a very erotic dream before I woke up this morning.....two of the reasons that this even bears mentioning is that I rarely remember my dreams, and I don't remember ever having a vivid & detailed sexual dream about a woman. Actually this dream had 2 women in it.....but I really can not figure out how the 2nd woman got to be there as I only know her by sight & she's not someone I've ever been interested in. The dream sequence had 3 scenes, and the 2nd woman was in the 2nd scene alone with me, only for a few moments. Part of me wonders if I should tell the 1st woman (the one I am interested in) about the dream....knowing that I'll be very embarrassed....also knowing that it probably won't get me anywhere, as the woman has told me in the past that while she finds me attractive....she can't imagine anything more than flirtation & friendship between us..... Ok.....that's as much as I'm comfortable sharing right now.

Update on El Coche

Well....I still don't have it. The 1st time it was late was because the insurance adjuster took their sweet old time about actually seeing the car & agreeing to the amount of work that needed to be done. then They only signed off on about 2/3 of the work. My mechanic got upset and told them they better approve all the work, because he wasn't going to do a 1/2 assed job on the car. The 2nd time it was late was because the insurance adjuster did approve the rest of the work.....but didn't bother to tell my mechanic that until several days after. He called them on a Monday to ask about it and they said 'oh we signed off on that Friday.'....so that was another delay. Now.....we have the 3rd delay...my mechanic was spraying the last clear coat on my car.....and there was some sort of chemical reaction, and the paint has to be completely re-done. So....barring further mishaps....I should have the car late next week.....6 weeks after this whole thing started and almost twice as long as the original time estimate. sigh

Isn't it nice.....

When people genuinely like you just for who you are?

If they only knew

Leo Daily extended (by Astrology.com) When it comes to relationships, you're not up for anything even remotely resembling routine. This doesn't necessarily mean that you'll try to entice a current partner to dangle from the ceiling -- although you might be a bit more 'open' with someone new if you're single -- but it certainly does mean that you're in the mood to try something different. The good news is that you won't be at all afraid to mention this to whoever you're with -- oh, and you'll have an extremely receptive audience.

A few thoughts

It's very pleasant to be used by 2 women as a pillow. It's even more pleasant when you get to use 1 of their bare breasts as a hand-warmer. If everyone at a party is having fun with everyone else.....and you were being totally left out of the loop....despite repeated attempts to be incluced and pointed comments about how unfair we all were being.....wouldn't you get a clue & figure out that just maybe you are tolerated....but not actually liked? Metal work tables that have been left outdoors for years....are rather gross to load into an SUV after a rainy day.....not to mention the composition of the black-green liquid that is all over the floor of the SUV now.....blech! What does it say about me that at least 2/3 of the women that I find attractive are younger than 30? (some a lot younger)

It's anonymous, I won't say who I took it from.

Post anything that you want (in the comments), BUT post it ANONYMOUSLY. It can be anything. A story, a secret, a confession, a fear, a love -- anything. Be sure to post Anonymously and Honestly. Post twice if you'd like. Then, put this in your LJ to see what your friends (and perhaps others who you don't even realize read your LJ) have to say.

How to start the new year

For those that may be interested..... Vicki & I are doing a beginner's bondage class, as part of the SMOdyssey Sampler.......SUNDAY JANUARY 2. Go to their site for more details if you want. Make a note....this will be 2 times in less than 6 months that Valia is the one being tied up.