Rhetorical I suppose

I used to be one of those people that 'everyone' would be nice to....but as soon as I left the room....they'd laugh at me & talk about me & say what they really thought about me. Some people....had the balls (and integrity I suppose) to actually tell me to my face that they didn't like me.....some of that subset would even tell me why. We were all in our late teens & early 20's at that time......I would hope that doing things like that would be something that a person would outgrow....that a person would learn to be genuine with everyone. If you don't like someone, either be cordial with them, or just plain ignore them. If someone asks you to tell them their opinion of you....be honest, but not necessarily brutal. Why gloss things over & pretend? It doesn't help the other person change or grow....and generally...if the person thinks you actually do like them.....you'll find that they'll be a pest & you can't get rid of them..... It's been said that honesty is the best policy.....but how many people actually are honest about things like this?