A little Spoof

Sometimes I just get the funniest stuff from the most serious sites. Below is part of the latest newsletter from 1 of the many human resources legal sites that I subscribe to. Brought to you by HRN Management Group Top Ten Helpful Websites For HR Professionals Here's a list of the top ten helpful websites for HR professionals: 10. CEO@DoorAlwaysClosed.com 9. Mother-in-LawWithCold@FMLA.com 8. CallingInSick@InterviewWithCompetitor.com 7. GoodIdeaCrushed@Budget.com 6. EmployeeHandbook@Fireplace.com 5. PreEmploymentTesting@SmallDixieCup.com 4. PerformanceAppraisals@NoRaiseThisYear.com 3. ManagedCare@Oxymoron.com 2. ILikeYourHair@HarassmentSuit.net 1. AppreciatingHR@ScienceFiction.com

It's Almost Baycon Time

Good Thing - I got this sent to me overnight....I was going to wear it to Baycon..... http://cgi.ebay.com/ws/eBayISAPI.dll?ViewItem&item=5392720268&rd=1&sspagename=STRK%3AMEWN%3AIT&rd=1 Bad Thing - XL doesn't mean it'll fit my rather wide hips. :( Top almost fit...but I don't want to risk tearing it during the weekend. I guess I'll re-visit this outfit around Folsom. So I know of 4 people on my Friends List who'll be there, plus Me, Vicki & Rik.....who else will I be lucky enough to run into this coming weekend at Baycon? We'll get there sometime Friday afternoon (Rik has to work), and leave late Monday morning. Got a room & everything. Can't find me....I'll have my cell. Don't have the # and want it? Ask. :)

2 things

I hate being a responsible adult sometimes. If I wasn't responsible...I'd say screw you to my boss & just walk out of here. If I'm taking anti-depressants....how can I still be despressed?

Misperceptions

How to do this...without being specific.... Ok....the pronouns in this are general purpose.....could stand for anyone. So...say a lot of people have an opinion of who you are as a person, or about some aspect of your personality....and when I say a lot, I mean, more than 50% of the people that you know &/or associate with on a regular basis. So the opinion/perception.....maybe they think you're ignorant, or a hypocrite....maybe they think you're racist or a slut, or selfish/self-centered...just think of something along these lines. However....you don't think of yourself in this way at all....you've gotten good grades in school & read the newspaper daily, so you can't be ignorant, or you have lots of minority friends, so you can't be racist....you get the point.... So....if a lot of people formed an opinion of you, that you believed was wrong, unfair, unjust, whatever.....would you try to find out what the behaviors or actions are that you exhibit that cause people to form this opinion of you? And if you actually did figure out what it was that you were doing.....would you try to change it somehow, so that people would not have such a negative opinion of you? Like say if you always told racist jokes, or you flirted with anyone with a pulse & brainwaves, or you had a habit of acting &/or talking without thinking things through.....would you try to tone it down, change it....or just say screw them all, I know they're wrong & sooner or later, people will see the real me....?

Sunshine Up My Butt!

This is an update on the work related entry from March 21, 2005. The stuff in bold text is my current feelings/comments. 1. I told her that they needed to wake up & realize that the reason there was such high turnover was not due to people wanting more $$ and finding other jobs....a lot of it is just plain due to people not being happy, and they need to look at the departments with the highest turnover & really take a good look at the managers there & see if that might not be where some of the problems lay (lie?) I said that most people weren't going to actually pipe up and say 'hey my manager is a jerk'.....because more often than not, the repercussions aren't worth it. They need to just take matters into their own hands & see everything for what it is. I'm not sure if she really heard me on this one or not. 1 of the Lending staff who recently left, did an Exit Questionnaire, and she totally blasted the AVP of Lending.....who, I believe, is the BIGGEST reason that the Lending department has such a high turnover. Did it make a difference? I don't know....I'm sure that the AVP probably read it, as well as the Exec. VP & CEO. There was probably discussion, and I'm betting it was all made to look like it was the other person blowing things out of proportion.....because, from what I hear from other people in the Lending department, is that it's just SSDD there. 2. I told her that I didn't like being talked down to, I didn't like her over-explaining things to me, and that I felt that she treated me poorly whenever she was having a bad day. I said that I understood that she was under a lot of pressure, and that there were issues of mistakes being made by other people....but that unless she could point out where I had screwed up or let her down in the last 3.5 years....that she needed to stop treating me like I was part of the problem. I said that I felt like she was doing the 'do as I say, not as I do' routine with me....by calling me to the carpet for being bitchy when I'm under stress, but then turning around and exhibiting the same behaviors herself. She has been making an effort in this area....but sometimes I think she took things differently than I meant them. She's told me that she feels that she can't be 'down' around me....I've told her that's not what I meant at all, that what I wanted was her to stop being negative TO me....not around me. People have issues & bad days, I know that.....I don't expect anyone to put on a Happy Face, when they ain't happy.....BUT, I also won't just roll over when you need a punching bag. She's still over-explaining things to me. I'm just going to have to learn to grin & bear that, because I'm thinking, that when she's 'in a mood', that's just how she is going to handle things. I don't like the over-explaining, but I suppose it could be worse. 3. I told her that I was bored and that I really needed more to do....I also said that I understood that she felt that she didn't have time to train me to take over some of her work, but that I believed that the time spent training me, in the long run would be more than re-paid by the time saved by her not have to do or worry about whatever work she decided to pass my way. 4. She almost seemed like she was asking my permission to start looking for a HR Manager.....as if maybe I would be upset that I wasn't asked to take the position. I told her that at this time, I didn't want a management position. I told her that I know I'm not really cut out for it, and that I don't have the experience needed. I said that all of this is not about me wanting a management position, it's about me wanting more to do. 5. She outlined her future department staffing plans (hopes). She wants to hire a Regional Branch Manager, to oversee all the branch issues & to take over all the training for the whole company. She wants to hire a HR Manager, someone who could eventually take over a significant part of her work, as well as doing the bulk of the recruiting. She also wants to hire a clerical type person who can take over the more clerical & reception parts of my job, and thereby get me away from the front desk & possibly into a office (with a door even). 6. She told me she wants to re-vamp the job descriptions for our department & she wants me to look at the current descriptions for the HR Assistant (my job), HR Generalist, Operations Trainer, and HR Manager.....and pick out what from those descriptions I would be willing to keep doing, or take on.....what I'm not willing (or able) to do, and what can be given over to a clerical person. 3-6 I can give a lump sum answer to. It pretty much ain't happenin'. She thinks we can get along with a 2 person department....her (or a HR Manager) & me.....with me doing exactly what I do now, exactly where I'm doing it. She finally relented A BIT, and has me writing classified ads for our company website (www.metro1cu.org), and for our in-house postings. When she gave me the list of open positions, I said 'what about HR?'....and she said it's just not in the budget......I don't understand.....we seemed to have enough for our 3rd who left in March....where did THAT money go? I asked about the clerk idea that she ran past me in March, and again....it's not in the budget. I pretty much squawked.....I told her that I HAVE been looking at the HR ads out there....and that I feel that I'm being put into a position where I will not be able to grow & learn.....I said that of the ads that I see out there, I don't have quite a bit of the experience that is commonplace, and I WANT THAT EXPERIENCE. She said that I have to understand that in 'this company' HR is a job where you know something about everything, but not A LOT about anything...because we just aren't big enough to be specialized. She pointed out that she's trying to get me more involved with FMLA and Worker's Comp stuff....and I kept my mouth shut about the fact that it's only the BEGINNING things she involves me in.....I rarely get to follow the process to it's end.....I don't even get to learn about the end results most of the time. It's like reading the first 3 chapters of a book, and then having it taken from you. She ADMITTED that she is over-whelmed, and that she has too much work in front of her....but she also said AGAIN, that she doesn't have the time to train me. I pretty much told her that I have been where I'm at for 3 years now....and I don't want to be IN THE SAME PLACE (experience-wise) 3 years from now.

3 Things Me-Me-Ish

THREE NAMES YOU GO BY: 1. Heather 2. Valia 3. That Bitch THREE SCREEN NAMES YOU HAVE HAD: 1. Witch With a Whip 2. Mstrs_Valia 3. ValiaDerekin THREE PHYSICAL THINGS YOU LIKE ABOUT YOURSELF: 1. Breasts 2. Hair 3. Eyes THREE PHYSICAL THINGS YOU DON'T LIKE ABOUT YOURSELF: 1. Butt 2. Stomach 3. Thighs THREE PARTS OF YOUR HERITAGE: 1. Irish 2. German 3. ??? THREE THINGS THAT SCARE YOU: 1. Being alone 2. Having everyone hate me 3. Financial ruin THREE OF YOUR EVERYDAY ESSENTIALS: 1. Cuddles from Hus-Beast 2. Chocolate 3. Time to read THREE THINGS YOU ARE WEARING RIGHT NOW: 1. denim capris 2. sage green wok polo 3. black New Balance shoes THREE OF YOUR FAVORITE BANDS OR MUSICAL ARTISTS: 1. Metallica 2. Meatloaf 3. Linkin Park THREE OF YOUR FAVORITE SONGS: 1. Something I can Never Have - NIN 2. Nothing Else Matters - Metallica 3. Never Again - Nickleback THREE THINGS YOU WANT IN A RELATIONSHIP: 1. Honesty 2. Respect 3. Caring TWO TRUTHS AND A LIE (in no particular order): 1. I'm not nearly as self-assure/confident as I seem. 2. I was in choir for over 15 years in school. 3. I could be a complete slave for the right person. THREE PHYSICAL THINGS ABOUT THE PREFERRED SEX THAT APPEAL TO YOU: 1. Breasts 2. Face 3. Hair THREE OF YOUR FAVORITE HOBBIES: 1. Reading 2. Watching Pro-Wrestling 3. Shoppong THREE THINGS YOU WANT TO DO REALLY BADLY RIGHT NOW: 1. Be at 200 lbs w/o all the effort. 2. Be financially independent enough to quit work & go back to school. 3. Wild sex with a woman or 3.... THREE CAREERS YOU'VE CONSIDERED: 1. Teacher 2. Psychologist 3. Human Resources THREE PLACES YOU WANT TO GO ON VACATION: 1. Ireland 2. Hawaii 3. Asutralia THREE KIDS' NAMES YOU LIKE: 1. Amber 2. Kayleigh 3. Rourke THREE THINGS YOU WANT TO DO BEFORE YOU DIE: 1. A 'round the world cruise 2. Win the Lottery 3. Feel like I made a difference THREE WAYS THAT YOU ARE STEREOTYPICALLY A CHICK: 1. I have mood swings. 2. Cry easily 3. My heart rules more than my head. THREE CELEB CRUSHES: 1. Angelina Jolie 2. Jennifer Tilly 3. Joanie Lauer THREE PEOPLE WHO HAVE TO TAKE THIS QUIZ NOW 1. No one has to do 2. anything they 3. don't want to

Long Survey Type Thing

TELL ME ABOUT YOURSELF - The Survey
Name:	Heather (Valia)
Birthday:	July 27, 1970
Birthplace:	Roscommon, Michigan
Current Location:	Hayward, CA
Eye Color:	blue
Hair Color:	Clairol Hydriance Ruby Twilight
Height:	5'10"
Right Handed or Left Handed:	write left, everything else right
Your Heritage:	Adopted, claim Irish
The Shoes You Wore Today:	black New Balance
Your Weakness:	women, food
Your Fears:	being alone, unwanted & unloved
Your Perfect Pizza:	Papa Murphy's Chicken, bacon & garlic sauce
Goal You Would Like To Achieve This Year:	To weight less than 235 by Christmas
Thoughts First Waking Up:	Gotta hit the scale
Your Best Physical Feature:	Breasts
Your Bedtime:	10-11 during the week
Your Most Missed Memory:	Not sure, I have a swiss cheese memory sometimes.
Pepsi or Coke:	Either
MacDonalds or Burger King:	Burger King
Single or Group Dates:	Single
Lipton Ice Tea or Nestea:	Arizona Ice Tea
Chocolate or Vanilla:	Chocolate
Cappuccino or Coffee:	Mocha
Do you Smoke:	rarely, cloves
Do you Swear:	often
Do you Sing:	daily
Do you Shower Daily:	mostly
Have you Been in Love:	yes
Do you want to go to College:	Been there, got a BA, would like to go back
Do you want to get Married:	Already am
Do you belive in yourself:	Sometimes
Do you get Motion Sickness:	Only when I'm a passengar being driven on winding mountain roads
Do you think you are Attractive:	sometimes
Are you a Health Freak:	not really
Do you get along with your Parents:	not really
Do you like Thunderstorms:	as long as I'm not driving during 1
Do you play an Instrument:	mediocre piano
In the past month have you Drank Alcohol:	yes
In the past month have you Smoked:	no
In the past month have you been on Drugs:	anti-depressant & birth control. :)
In the past month have you gone on a Date:	not in the traditional sense
In the past month have you gone to a Mall:	yep
In the past month have you eaten a box of Oreos:	nope
In the past month have you eaten Sushi:	nope
In the past month have you been on Stage:	no
In the past month have you been Dumped:	no
In the past month have you gone Skinny Dipping:	no
In the past month have you Stolen Anything:	no
Ever been Drunk:	yes
Ever been called a Tease:	yes
Ever been Beaten up:	yes
Ever Shoplifted:	no
How do you want to Die:	peacefully in my sleep, or directly after an earthshattering orgasm
What do you want to be when you Grow Up:	I am grown-up. :)
What country would you most like to Visit:	Ireland
In a Boy/Girl..
Favourite Eye Color:	doesn't matter
Favourite Hair Color:	red or blonde
Short or Long Hair:	long enough to grab a handful of
Height:	at least 5'
Weight:	under 300#
Best Clothing Style:	for my imaginary lover - whatever suits them, for me....revealing & feminine
Number of Drugs I have taken:	just speed
Number of CDs I own:	over 60, less than 100
Number of Piercings:	3 in each ear
Number of Tattoos:	5
Number of things in my Past I Regret:	more than I can count
CREATE YOUR OWN! - or - GET PAID TO TAKE SURVEYS!

It has it's true points

Smartass You are 57% Rational, 57% Extroverted, 57% Brutal, and 57% Arrogant.

You are the Smartass! You are rational, extroverted, brutal, and arrogant. You probably consider people who are emotional and gentle to be big pussies who are obviously in lesser stature than you. You have many flaws, despite your seeming intelligence and cool-headedness. For instance, you aren't very nice. In fact, you're probably an asshole. And you are conceited and self-centered. Not only that, but you are very loud and vocal about all this, seeing as how you are extroverted. There is no better way to describe you than as a "smartass", I'm afraid. Perhaps just "ass" would do, too. But that's a little less literary and descriptive. At any rate, your main personality defect is the fact that you are self-centered, mean, uncaring, and brutally logical. To put it less negatively: 1. You are more RATIONAL than intuitive. 2. You are more EXTROVERTED than introverted. 3. You are more BRUTAL than gentle. 4. You are more ARROGANT than humble. Compatibility: Your exact opposite is the Emo Kid. Other personalities you would probably get along with are the Capitalist Pig, the Braggart, and the Sociopath. * * If you scored near fifty percent for a certain trait (42%-58%), you could very well go either way. For example, someone with 42% Extroversion is slightly leaning towards being an introvert, but is close enough to being an extrovert to be classified that way as well. Below is a list of the other personality types so that you can determine which other possible categories you may fill if you scored near fifty percent for certain traits. The other personality types: The Emo Kid: Intuitive, Introverted, Gentle, Humble. The Starving Artist: Intuitive, Introverted, Gentle, Arrogant. The Bitch-Slap: Intuitive, Introverted, Brutal, Humble. The Brute: Intuitive, Introverted, Brutal, Arrogant. The Hippie: Intuitive, Extroverted, Gentle, Humble. The Televangelist: Intuitive, Extroverted, Gentle, Arrogant. The Schoolyard Bully: Intuitive, Extroverted, Brutal, Humble. The Class Clown: Intuitive, Extroverted, Brutal, Arrogant. The Robot: Rational, Introverted, Gentle, Humble. The Haughty Intellectual: Rational, Introverted, Gentle, Arrogant. The Spiteful Loner: Rational, Introverted, Brutal, Humble. The Sociopath: Rational, Introverted, Brutal, Arrogant. The Hand-Raiser: Rational, Extroverted, Gentle, Humble. The Braggart: Rational, Extroverted, Gentle, Arrogant. The Capitalist Pig: Rational, Extroverted, Brutal, Humble. The Smartass: Rational, Extroverted, Brutal, Arrogant.

My test tracked 4 variables How you compared to other people your age and gender: You scored higher than 36% on Rationality You scored higher than 63% on Extroversion You scored higher than 62% on Brutality You scored higher than 64% on Arrogance

Link: The Personality Defect Test written by saint_gasoline on Ok Cupid

Variations

Several of the questions, I had 2 answers for, so behind the tag are both sets of results. I do have to question the result of "Your risk of cheating is zero. You care about society and morality." I'm poly...and as long as everyone involved knows & accepts what's going on....it's not cheating....and as far as society & morality are concerned....societies idea of morals & ethics don't have a whole lot to do with my own personal morals & ethics.....

The Keys to Your Heart

You are attracted to obedience and warmth.

In love, you feel the most alive when everything is uncertain, one moment heaven... the next moment hell.

You'd like to your lover to think you are optimistic and happy.

You would be forced to break up with someone who was ruthless, cold-blooded, and sarcastic.

Your ideal relationship is lasting. You want a relationship that looks to the future... one you can grow with.

Your risk of cheating is zero. You care about society and morality. You would never break a commitment.

You think of marriage something you've always wanted... though you haven't really thought about it.

In this moment, you think of love as something you thirst for. You'll do anything for love, but you won't fall for it easily.

The Keys to Your Heart

You are attracted to those who are unbridled, untrammeled, and free.

In love, you feel the most alive when everything is uncertain, one moment heaven... the next moment hell.

You'd like to your lover to think you are stylish and alluring.

You would be forced to break up with someone who was insecure and in constant need of reassurance.

Your ideal relationship is lasting. You want a relationship that looks to the future... one you can grow with.

Your risk of cheating is zero. You care about society and morality. You would never break a commitment.

You think of marriage something you've always wanted... though you haven't really thought about it.

In this moment, you think of love as something you thirst for. You'll do anything for love, but you won't fall for it easily.

What Are The Keys To Your Heart?

Secretly Submissive?

So....being that I consider myself to be of the sadistic-top/domme variety.... What does it say about me that a lot of women I have found, or do currently find attractive are strong, independent dominant women.... I also seem to be developing a greater appreciation/attraction for the boi/andro/soft butch type too..... (sigh) Either way, it doesn't really matter....since the chances that any of my interests would take an interest in me are slim-to-none....most of them are involved with others....sometimes with each other....and I don't think I even register on the radar screen with most of them....

I'm too....

Loud - My boss complains all the time that I speak too loudly & I sound like I'm upset....she's always shushing me or making hand motions to get me to tone it down. I notice sometimes too at parties, DM's have had to come warn me that I'm talking too loudly in the 'quiet/play' areas. When I was in choir....I had (still have) a fairly overwhelming singing voice. I would drown out anyone (2, 3, 4) singing near me....when I finally started singing tenor...this was actually a good thing, because I made it sound like more than 1 person was singing tenor. I'm too... forward/brash.....I come on too strong, flirt too heavy, push too hard...and most likely, that is driving away the very people that I want to keep close. I'm too... needy....wanting to be the focus, the center of attention, but without saying HEY LOOK AT ME!!! I need reassurance....I need too much for peopleto validate me & tell me I'm worthy. I should look for that validation within myself....but somehow, it always means more when it comes from someone else.... Getting back to singing....if I ever did kareoke.... T’pau heart and soul Something in the moonlight catches my eye The shadow of a lover goes dancing by Looking for a little bit of love to grow so Give me love give me heart and soul You never let me cross to the other side now I’m tied to the hope that you will somehow Hard on the heels of something good When I lost your love heart and soul The tear in my heart as you walked on by I feel so low when your head is high Everything you do convinces more of this Give me love give me heart and soul Looking to the day when I saw your face I wasn’t in the running I wasn’t in the race You move in a way I’ve known before Now I want your love heart and soul Tired eyes tears that dried On the bed on the pillow where the love has died A turn of the key through the door you go Don’t look back to hurt me more Everything you said was to the point Walking on water walking on air That was the heart of the love we share Do you keep secrets left untold? Can’t give love heart and soul Used to have a lover with a Midas touch I turned to gold he turned to dust Left me for another I turned to stone Now give me love heart and soul Tired eyes tears that dried On the bed on the pillow where you told lies A turn of a key my blood goes cold Don’t come back to hurt me more Everything you did just said it all Can’t you try to won’t you even try to More than an ocean Keeps us apart I feel the tearing of upon my heart Leaving you ain't easy now But loving you's the harder part You never want me for myself and I've needed you right from the very start Oh, won't you even and try to Give a little bit of heart and soul Give a little bit of love to grow Give a little bit of heart and soul and don't you make me beg for love Give a sign cos I need to know Little bit of heart and soul Walk on the water More than I need But miracles are not happening Living in a fantasy There’s never any room to breath Hoping every waking hour You’ll turn around and say that we can stay Oh won’t you even try to Give a little bit of heart and soul Give a little bit of love to grow Give a little bit of heart and soul And don't you make me beg for love Give a sign cos I need to know A little bit of heart and soul Somehow I lost my way looking to see something in your eyes But love will never compromise Now this is the politics of life yeah-yeah Give a little bit of heart and soul Give a little bit of love to grow Give a little bit of heart and soul And don't you make me beg for love Give a sign cos I need to know A little bit of heart and soul Give a little bit of heart and soul Give a little bit of love to grow Give a little bit of heart and soul And don't you make me beg for love Give a sign cos I need to know A little bit of heart and soul TOTAL ECLIPSE OF THE HEART (Bonnie Tyler) Turnaround, every now and then I get a little bit lonely and you're never coming around Turnaround, Every now and then I get a little bit tired of listening to the sound of my tears Turnaround, Every now and then I get a little bit nervous that the best of all the years have gone by Turnaround, Every now and then I get a little bit terrified and then I see the look in your eyes Turnaround bright eyes, Every now and then I fall apart Turnaround bright eyes, Every now and then I fall apart Turnaround, Every now and then I get a little bit restless and I dream of something wild Turnaround, Every now and then I get a little bit helpless and I'm lying like a child in your arms Turnaround, Every now and then I get a little bit angry and I know I've got to get out and cry Turnaround, Every now and then I get a little bit terrified but then I see the look in your eyes Turnaround bright eyes, Every now and then I fall apart Turnaround bright eyes, Every now and then I fall apart And I need you now tonight And I need you more than ever And if you'll only hold me tight We'll be holding on forever And we'll only be making it right Cause we'll never be wrong together We can take it to the end of the line Your love is like a shadow on me all of the time I don't know what to do and I'm always in the dark We're living in a powder keg and giving off sparks I really need you tonight Forever's gonna start tonight Forever's gonna start tonight Once upon a time I was falling in love But now I'm only falling apart There's nothing I can do A total eclipse of the heart Once upon a time there was light in my life But now there's only love in the dark Nothing I can say A total eclipse of the heart Turnaround bright eyes Turnaround bright eyes Turnaround, every now and then I know you'll never be the boy you always you wanted to be Turnaround, every now and then I know you'll always be the only boy who wanted me the way that I am Turnaround, every now and then I know there's no one in the universe as magical and wonderous as you Turnaround, every now and then I know there's nothing any better and there's nothing I just wouldn't do Turnaround bright eyes, Every now and then I fall apart Turnaround bright eyes, Every now and then I fall apart And I need you now tonight And I need you more than ever And if you'll only hold me tight We'll be holding on forever And we'll only be making it right Cause we'll never be wrong together We can take it to the end of the line Your love is like a shadow on me all of the time I don't know what to do and I'm always in the dark We're living in a powder keg and giving off sparks I really need you tonight Forever's gonna start tonight Forever's gonna start tonight Once upon a time I was falling in love But now I'm only falling apart There's nothing I can do A total eclipse of the heart Once upon a time there was light in my life But now there's only love in the dark Nothing I can say A total eclipse of the heart I Will Survive by Gloria Gaynor First I was afraid I was petrified Kept thinking I could never live without you by my side But I spent so many nights thinking how you did me wrong I grew strong I learned how to carry on and so you're back from outer space I just walked in to find you here with that sad look upon your face I should have changed my stupid lock I should have made you leave your key If I had known for just one second you'd be back to bother me Go on now go walk out the door just turn around now 'cause you're not welcome anymore weren't you the one who tried to hurt me with goodbye you think I'd crumble you think I'd lay down and die Oh no, not I I will survive as long as i know how to love I know I will stay alive I've got all my life to live I've got all my love to give and I'll survive I will survive It took all the strength I had not to fall apart kept trying hard to mend the pieces of my broken heart and I spent oh so many nights just feeling sorry for myself I used to cry Now I hold my head up high and you see me somebody new I'm not that chained up little person still in love with you and so you felt like dropping in and just expect me to be free now I'm saving all my loving for someone who's loving me Bohemian Rhapsody - Queen Is this the real life- Is this just fantasy- Caught in a landslide- No escape from reality- Open your eyes Look up to the skies and see- I’m just a poor boy,i need no sympathy- Because I’m easy come,easy go, A little high,little low, Anyway the wind blows,doesn’t really matter to me, To me Mama,just killed a man, Put a gun against his head, Pulled my trigger,now he’s dead, Mama,life had just begun, But now I’ve gone and thrown it all away- Mama ooo, Didn’t mean to make you cry- If I’m not back again this time tomorrow- Carry on,carry on,as if nothing really matters- Too late,my time has come, Sends shivers down my spine- Body’s aching all the time, Goodbye everybody-I’ve got to go- Gotta leave you all behind and face the truth- Mama ooo- (any way the wind blows) I don’t want to die, I sometimes wish I’d never been born at all- I see a little silhouetto of a man, Scaramouche,scaramouche will you do the fandango- Thunderbolt and lightning-very very frightening me- Galileo,galileo, Galileo galileo Galileo figaro-magnifico- But I’m just a poor boy and nobody loves me- He’s just a poor boy from a poor family- Spare him his life from this monstrosity- Easy come easy go-,will you let me go- Bismillah! no-,we will not let you go-let him go- Bismillah! we will not let you go-let him go Bismillah! we will not let you go-let me go Will not let you go-let me go Will not let you go let me go No,no,no,no,no,no,no- Mama mia,mama mia,mama mia let me go- Beelzebub has a devil put aside for me,for me,for me- So you think you can stone me and spit in my eye- So you think you can love me and leave me to die- Oh baby-can’t do this to me baby- Just gotta get out-just gotta get right outta here- Nothing really matters, Anyone can see, Nothing really matters-,nothing really matters to me, Any way the wind blows....

Getting to know you

So....you & another person start the 'getting to know you dance' on-line. 1 of you has a personal ad up somewhere, the other 1 of you responded to it....and you've exchanged a few emails. 1 of you states unequivocally---I want to get to know you, tell me anything about yourself that you are comfortable with telling me. The other 1 of you starts talking about yourself but also tries to draw out personal things from the 1st person....so that the conversation isn't completely ME ME ME & 1 sided. Then suddenly....1 of you decides that this isn't really going to go anywhere....there's some basic incompatibility that has come to light. So....do you just stop 'talking' to the person all together, leaving them to possibly wonder "what happened?", or do you write them 1 last email and let them know that you don't think you're all that compatible after all?