Stupid Hurt Feelings Rant

So, I was at a munch Wednesday... Person X is having a party this weekend, about 60 miles from me. Person Y was asking Person X who was expected at the party, and then asked X if Vicki would be there. Person X turns and glares at me and said a bit loudly, 'Her mistress wants to go to The Citadel, so Vicki won't be there.' Now for some reason, this bothers me. #1 - Vicki is her own person, I may be her mistress, but that doesn't mean that I have total & absolute control over every aspect of her life. If she wanted to go to X's party, she was more than welcome to go....without me. #2 - During the last 2 weeks, I've already made 3 BDSM related trips that were over 50 miles from my house....and I just wasn't in the mood for yet another trek. #3 - I haven't been to The Citadel since May. I'd like to try to get there a few more times, since for all anyone knows at the moment, they could be completely out of business by the end of the year. #4 - When I was speaking to Vicki about this, she said it was for the best that she go to The Citadel. She has a lot of work to do in order to sell her house & move....and going to X's party would take up more of her weekend than she ought to be giving up. Going to the Citadel would mean that she'd be working Saturday day & maybe even Sunday. Anyways....like the title said...my feelings are hurt. I understand that Vicki is very well-liked & popular....but it really bothers me that I am the bad guy because she chooses 1 event over another.