Saturday, March 29, 2008

BYY Goal 6

6. Keep trying to speak my mind, even if it's going to hurt. I think I'm getting more than a bit better at this. In the last couple of weeks, I've had some (for me) tough conversations with a few people who are important to me. In 1 case, I can already see where my words have made a difference. I told the person about some things they were doing that really bothered me, and they are making an effort to not do those things. With another person...I'm not sure whether my words had an impact. It'll definitely be a case where only time will tell. It's still very hard for me to speak up. I'm so worried about hurting someone, starting a fight, or causing long-term animosity. I know it's for the best in the long run (for me if nothing else), so I just screw up my courage and say what I need to say. Sometimes I feel like this is just coming out of the blue & I'm doing nothing but point out a bunch of negative things about someone. It's not though, not for me. If I'm finally talking about something, I'm talking about it because it's something that has been bothering me (hurting me, angering me) for a long time...months, sometimes even years. I still have other topics I need to address...but I'm saving it for another time. Right now, it's all about baby steps for me. I'm addressing tough stuff (from my point of view). When I'm ready to move on to bigger problems/complications...when I feel I can deal with the potential fall-out of the conversations...then I'll broach the subjects. So, that's Goal 6 is a not so small nutshell.

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