Saturday, June 28, 2008
SF Pride
I'll be in a very green plaid faux-utilikilt, vinyl underbust corset & white vaguely pirate shirt.
I'm marching with the Citadel continget, #87, launching from Beale X Market/Mission.
Find me if you can. :)
Cell - 707-567-9510
Always Good to Remember
www.astrology.com
Dear Valia, Here is your single's love horoscope for Saturday, June 28:
Being generous doesn't mean letting people walk all over you. Learn to stand up for yourself and make more of an effort to be around those who appreciate you -- as is.
Friday, June 27, 2008
Thursday, June 26, 2008
It's Worth Repeating
I posted this around March...and I really need to keep it in mind.
Try to avoid getting entangled with someone who has more baggage than I do...and who is more high maintenance than I am.
I fully admit that being with me isn't easy...and I think I'd be OK with someone who has a similar amount of issues as I do...but I don't have the wherewithal to give a lot of support to someone with more issues than I have.
I have to remember that in the long run, no matter how much I may care about someone...I need to care about myself more. Giving too much of myself isn't going to help either of us in the long run. In the past, I would sometimes slip into a state where I give & give...and it just seems to be expected that I keep on giving, no matter what,...and if I pipe up & let it be known that I'm running low & could stand to have some giving tossed my way...the other person seems to be less than thrilled.
That just plain needs to be avoided...but as I well know, things like that are things I still need to work on.
The Other Shoe Drops
My mom has melanoma.
Mole on/near her nose.
At the moment, she's scheduled for surgery on 9/4. She's going to pester them to get something sooner.
Hey Rock - You're my nemesis
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Wednesday, June 25, 2008
Sunday, June 22, 2008
Follow-up on the Drama
XX: hi. wanted to apologize. don't mean to rude. was just feeling frustrated.
Valia: about what?
XX: that you didn't seen interested in even meeting me.
Valia: I never said that. I'm just not interested in playing out some hot online fantasy & making plans for hotness in person only to find out that it's not gonna happen.
EDITTED FOR EXTRA CONTENT - SENT LATE LAST NIGHT
XX: hi. You're probably asleep. will write anyway. i never intended to mislead you in anyway. it hasn't been my goal to make fantasy plans. you did bring up things i hadn't considered enough. i asked my gf tonight what she thought of me playing outside the relationship.
Gee...pardon be for having a stronger set of morals than the average person hanging out on a personals site. If you had read my profile thoroughly, you might have noticed this line -
I don't care what your relationship status is.... so long as you are NOT cheating on your partner. I do NOT do cheating, or 'discrete' relationships. I conduct myself with honesty & integrity, and I prefer to be close to people who do the same.
Saturday, June 21, 2008
Merry Ho Ho
If anyone is missing that perfect outfit for the holidays...I present you with this
http://cgi.ebay.com/Utilikilt-Holiday-Kilt-THE-ONLY-ONE-EVER-MADE_W0QQitemZ180252986569QQihZ008QQcategoryZ112424QQssPageNameZWDVWQQrdZ1QQcmdZViewItem
Avoiding Drama
A while ago, this woman started emailing me on CollarMe. We swapped IM's, and I pinged her one day (this being maybe 2 days after our last email). She said she didn't remember me, so I sent her the link to my CollarMe profile. Not a peep out of her after that. Ok, whatever.
So...a few weeks later, she emails me again on CollarMe. I told her that I wasn't sure I wanted to pursue anything with her, since she was so rude to me on IM. She claims to not even remember what happened. Ok...well, I'll give her the benefit of the doubt & talk to her a little more.
So, we had been IMing for a day or 2...and she tells me that she has a girlfriend.
Valia: So how does your girlfriend feel about you playing with other people?
XX: i haven't had that conversation yet. i am hoping she sees it as me meeting my needs
Valia: oh..ok. Well I'll be upfront...if she's NOT ok with it...I'm not.
XX: I know. i am being totally honest with you.
Valia: I appreciate that. I just don't like the idea of going behind people.
So yesterday I came home to the below. SIDE NOTE - I told her several times I was only on IM after 6PM...and she still kept messaging me & got a little upset when I didn't reply.
XX: hey, i don't mind dropping the whole play idea. doesn't seen like We're connecting like that which is fine. i'm still open to chat tho.
So when I got home the rest of the conversation went as noted.
Valia: As far as an 'us' thing goes...I'm not investing too much of myself until AFTER you've squared things away with your girlfriend.
XX: yeah, and i'm not having that conversation w her until i find someone i would like to pursue. see if There's a connection, like interests, desire to play and take it from there
I wished her luck & signed off.
So is it me, or does her method seem a little backwards?
Friday, June 20, 2008
Clothes Horse
Your result for The Fashion Style Test...
Catwalk God(ess)
[Flamboyant Original Deliberate Sexy]
You know fashion inside out but you're far from being its slave. To you fashion is what you decide to wear. You've got great, if unconventional, taste and plenty of courage to put your ideas into practice, which inspires admiration; but few have guts to copycat you. I suppose it doesn't worry you because to you originality counts. You are self-confident, perhaps even arrogant, and consider a day wasted when no one gives you an interested or shocked look. Great job.
The opposite style from yours is Librarian [Tasteful Conventional Random Prissy].
All the categories: Librarian Sporty Hottie Office Master Uptown Girl/ Boy Brainy Student Movie Star Fashionista Glamorous Soul Fashion Enemy Bar Cruiser Kid Next Door Sex Bomb Hippie Kid Fashion Rebel Fashion Artist Catwalk God(ess)
You know fashion inside out but you're far from being its slave. To you fashion is what you decide to wear. You've got great, if unconventional, taste and plenty of courage to put your ideas into practice, which inspires admiration; but few have guts to copycat you. I suppose it doesn't worry you because to you originality counts. You are self-confident, perhaps even arrogant, and consider a day wasted when no one gives you an interested or shocked look. Great job.
The opposite style from yours is Librarian [Tasteful Conventional Random Prissy].
All the categories: Librarian Sporty Hottie Office Master Uptown Girl/ Boy Brainy Student Movie Star Fashionista Glamorous Soul Fashion Enemy Bar Cruiser Kid Next Door Sex Bomb Hippie Kid Fashion Rebel Fashion Artist Catwalk God(ess)
Wednesday, June 18, 2008
Grr Ack & Arrgh
Another one bites the dust.
A recruiter at Ajilon rang me up a few weeks ago about this great payroll position in San Ramon....a permanent (as opposed to temp-to-hire) position.
So, I took a long lunch that day & registered with Ajilon. A few days later, I interviewed with San Ramon Company.
The HR Director asked me back for a 2nd interview. She wanted me to come in for a few hours while they were processing payroll, so I could get a feel for the operation there.
According to her & Ajilon, I was the 2nd person out of everyone they've seen to be asked back...and apparently the 1st one backed out because of the commute (which would be 1/2 of my current drive). According to Ajilon, they loved me & the job was practically mine.
So, they finally set up the 2nd interview for last Wednesday...and then canceled it the afternoon before.
Apparently they've been ass-deep in auditors, trying to become more Sarbanes-Oxley compliant. So...today...1 week after I should have had the 2nd interview & 3 weeks after the 1st interview...Ajilon calls me today & tells me that San Ramon company has pulled the position. Apparently the person who was leaving...isn't.
Well, fuck me gently with a chainsaw.
Monday, June 16, 2008
Untangling
So, exactly 6 months ago I posted this.
http://valiaderekin.livejournal.com/204370.html
Yesterday I found out that my dad has gone from 4th stage cancer to being completely in remission.
Whatever indicator it is in the blood that shows cancer was at 917 when this all started. Now that indicator is at 37. His doctors are amazed. He wasn't expected to survive for more than a year.
Now...he's been given a 2nd shot at life. I hope he grabs on with both hands & makes the best of it.
Saturday, June 14, 2008
Friday, June 13, 2008
Haven't Done This in a While
The horoscope makes it seem I'm a little full of myself...but I can appreciate the sentiment. Maybe the 'stars' will too?
From www.astrology.com
Single's love horoscope for Friday, June 13:
It's not easy to step into the dating scene without taking a few things personally. Your courageous spirit guides you through the creeps and losers to someone worthy of your time and affections.
Saturday, June 7, 2008
ACK!
It sucks when you leave your IM on & forget to turn it off when you are busy away from the screen.
It sucks even more when a friend leaves you a cryptic comment & then logs off just as you make it back to the computer.
Friday, June 6, 2008
Instant Karma
Seen on Crow Canyon on my way home.
Light turns yellow, I slow to a stop. SUV next to me speeds up...and ends up blowing through a red light. Turned red just as the SUV crossed the line.
However...Mr. Speedy just happened to do this right in front of a cop who was preparing to pull out of the Shell station. Mr. Officer hit his pretty light button, took off & had the SUV pulled over within 2 blocks.
Am I now?
Social Realist (SR)
The social realist is a popular person full of energy. She is reliable, well organized and helpful. Traditional values are important to her. Founding a family also plays a central role in her life. The social realist has a marked social streak. She is always ready to listen to the worries and problems of others and spares no effort when she is asked for help. With empathy and understanding, she can sense what other people need. The social realist is always willing to highly regard the strong points of the other person and to excuse that person’s weaknesses. She is the most sociable of all personality types. Social contacts are very important to her.
The social realist finds it very difficult to cope with conflicts and criticism - harmony is her elixir of life. Acknowledgement and esteem are very important to this type.
Differentiation on the other hand is not necessarily one of her strong points. At work and in partnerships, she is loyal, committed and always there when needed. She finds it easy to make friends due to her open, warm manner and she has a large circle of friends. In love, she is faithful and attentive and cares for her partner with a great deal of imagination and sensitivity. The social realist shows her feelings openly and honestly. Should a relationship break up, she tends to blame herself. That is why she finds it very difficult to end a partnership even if it has not fulfilled her requirements for some time.
The social realist is more a conservative type. She has a set system of values and rules which is orientated to the prevailing traditions. She prefers clear, structured surroundings and work processes; she finds too much change und unrest unpleasant. Her strong points are carefulness and reliability and not so much flexibility and spontaneity. The social realist is open-minded towards anything new only to a limited extent. But, should one be looking for someone to fulfil a task reliably and exactly, she is the right person.
Adjectives which describe your type
extroverted, practical, sentimental, planning, emotional, temperamental, energetic, tradition-conscious, loyal, helpful, devoted, reliable, caring, objective, thorough, organised, warm-hearted, open, friendly, sociable, chummy, obliging, self-sacrificing, public-spirited, sensitive, kind, demanding
These subjects could interest you
honorary work, parties, going out, music, hiking, cooking, craftwork, nature, literature
Social Realist (SR)
The social realist is a popular person full of energy. She is reliable, well organized and helpful. Traditional values are important to her. Founding a family also plays a central role in her life. The social realist has a marked social streak. She is always ready to listen to the worries and problems of others and spares no effort when she is asked for help. With empathy and understanding, she can sense what other people need. The social realist is always willing to highly regard the strong points of the other person and to excuse that person’s weaknesses. She is the most sociable of all personality types. Social contacts are very important to her.
The social realist finds it very difficult to cope with conflicts and criticism - harmony is her elixir of life. Acknowledgement and esteem are very important to this type.
Differentiation on the other hand is not necessarily one of her strong points. At work and in partnerships, she is loyal, committed and always there when needed. She finds it easy to make friends due to her open, warm manner and she has a large circle of friends. In love, she is faithful and attentive and cares for her partner with a great deal of imagination and sensitivity. The social realist shows her feelings openly and honestly. Should a relationship break up, she tends to blame herself. That is why she finds it very difficult to end a partnership even if it has not fulfilled her requirements for some time.
The social realist is more a conservative type. She has a set system of values and rules which is orientated to the prevailing traditions. She prefers clear, structured surroundings and work processes; she finds too much change und unrest unpleasant. Her strong points are carefulness and reliability and not so much flexibility and spontaneity. The social realist is open-minded towards anything new only to a limited extent. But, should one be looking for someone to fulfil a task reliably and exactly, she is the right person.
Adjectives which describe your type
extroverted, practical, sentimental, planning, emotional, temperamental, energetic, tradition-conscious, loyal, helpful, devoted, reliable, caring, objective, thorough, organised, warm-hearted, open, friendly, sociable, chummy, obliging, self-sacrificing, public-spirited, sensitive, kind, demanding
These subjects could interest you
honorary work, parties, going out, music, hiking, cooking, craftwork, nature, literature
Wednesday, June 4, 2008
Nothing to do Saturday Night?
Check this out!
http://www.deathguildthunderdome.com/
Rik & I went last year & it was a totally fantastic event.
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