I just don't understand

J - Most of the community is terrified of you. Me - I terrify people? J - Yes. Me - Why do you say that? J - You are a strong & powerful woman and that terrifies people. I know I terrify her anyway.....but she's like a moth to a flame....she wants to be close to the fire, regardless of whether or not she might get her wings singed. I don't understand.....am I really terrifying? If so....what the hell did I do to get that way? The only people I want to purposely terrify are clueless males, and in special negotiated circumstances.....female submissives and/or masochists. Being told that I'm terrifying....as a general thing....does not make me happy.....I don't necessarily see that as a Good Thing(tm).