Is it really that easy?

I read this on MSN.com, in the Gay/Lesbian dating section. The person seeking advice was writing in about how to deal with her girlfriend being overly flirtatious when she's drinking. Part of the column that really grabbed me is below.... By Dave Singleton I want to share with you one of the best pieces of advice about making a relationship work that I’ve ever heard. This little pearl of wisdom came from the mother of a friend of mine. I asked her how she’d made her marriage of 30 years work successfully, and she replied, "Find out what really bothers your mate—and then don’t do that."