1. I'm not one of those girls that means maybe or yes, when they've just said no to something. No really means no. It does not mean push me & I'll capitulate. It does not mean ask me again & again & I'll see the error of my ways & change my mind. It most definitely does not mean invade my space & try to get me to do what you want...even if it's something as innocent as eating a piece of food from your fingers. It also does not mean that you get to back pedal & deny that you were trying to do exactly what it was that I just said no to...in the hopes of making me believe that I was just misinterpreting your behavior. 2. I find it embarrassing to have to call red during a conversation. I feel like I don't have control of anything that is happening & that saying red is the only way I've been left to regain control. 3. You might be a great person & have a lot of the qualities that I'm looking for ... but if you are excessively pushy &/or you come on too strong with little regard for what I do or do not want...you are really shooting yourself in the foot with regards to having any chances of being with me. Which leads to 4. 4. There's a fine line between assertive & pushy/aggressive. I appreciate assertive. I like it when a woman knows what she wants & isn't afraid to say so. What I don't like is when a woman feels the need to try and take what she wants, with no regard for what the other person may want. And hey, guess what...I am the one drawing the line here. If you don't think you're being pushy/aggressive...and I do...well, guess who's opinion matter more in this little transaction. 5. While I may be a dominant/top, I do not feel the need to assert my dominance over every seemingly submissive & available (or not available for that matter) woman that crosses my path. I wait until they show an interest in me & in interacting that way. And no, I do not believe that merely introducing themself to me, or even looking my way constitutes interest or permission for me to be all domly towards them. I see that type of behavior as predatory....and overly masculine. I see that behavior more often from your stereotypical Het Male Dom...and it's not a behavior I find attractive in anyone, male or female, and it's most definitely not a characteristic I want to exhibit myself. Sure, I'm looking for a woman to have some fun (or more) with, but that doesn't mean that I need to throw myself at every one that crosses my path. Just because that happens to work (well unfortunately) for someone else, doesn't mean that it's something that I should do in the hopes that it'll work for me. In the past, I know I've come on too strong to some women & I know that doing so totally made things backfire for me. Instead of drawing them closer, I ended up driving them away. So...explain to me why I should be even more over the top & just start dominating every interesting woman that crosses my path? 6. When I try to tell you that I am having a problem with something (or I see you doing something that bothers me), what I want is for you to take what I am saying to heart and I want you to think about what I'm trying to tell you. Don't just blow me off because you don't agree with what I say & you don't see the same things that I see. I'm looking at situations from the outside...and I'm reporting to you what I see as an outsider & what, most likely, other people on the outside are seeing too. If something is unattractive &/or annoying to me, isn't it possible that other people might feel that way too & just decide not to say something about it because they don't want to start an argument, or cause bad feelings, or in many cases, aren't up to putting themself in a place of discomfort.