So who can I have sex with?

PURITY: 20% sex, 60% substance, 54% moral [38% total]

Well done! The higher your scores, the more "pure" you are. The lower, the more you've experienced. This test was about done deeds, so your numbers will never climb. [It's interesting to think they all started at 100%.] But will your purity continue to fall? Will you OUTGROW or will you OUTDO your past experiences? It's up to you. Advisory: Don't date anyone if your moral purities differ by more than 30%. Don't run a business with anyone if your substance purities differ by more than 40%. Do be friends with someone who has less than 1/2 your sex purity. You'll enjoy their colorful company. Note: as for the "TOTAL" purity value - that's a weighted combination of your scores, indicating what a typical purity test might say about you.

My test tracked 4 variables How you compared to other people your age and gender: You scored higher than 78% on substance You scored higher than 21% on sex You scored higher than 35% on moral You scored higher than 35% on TOTAL

Link: The 3-Variable Purity Test written by chriscoyne on Ok Cupid

Your brain: 35% interpersonal, 20% visual, 35% verbal, and 10% mathematical!

Congratulations on being 100% smart! The above score breaks down what kind of thinking you most enjoy doing. It says nothing about how good you are at any one, just how interested you are in each, relatively. A substantial difference in scores between two people means, conclusively, that they are different kinds of thinkers. Matching Summary: Each of us has different tastes. Still, I offer the following advice, which I think is obvious: Don't date someone if your interpersonal percentages differ by more than 50%. Don't be friends with someone if your verbal percentages differ by more than 60%. Don't have sex with someone if their math percentage is over 50%. Update, April 2005: Try my new test, the 3-Variable Purity Test.

My test tracked 4 variables How you compared to other people your age and gender: You scored higher than 85% on interpersonal You scored higher than 16% on visual You scored higher than 91% on verbal You scored higher than 4% on mathematical

Link: The 4-Variable IQ Test written by chriscoyne on Ok Cupid

This is actually a decent quiz

pretty good You scored 19 American Logic Points!

Wow, you actually look around every once in a while. Congratulations.

My test tracked 1 variable How you compared to other people your age and gender: You scored higher than 37% on American Logic

Link: The American logic Test written by You4got2Evolve on OkCupid Online Dating

Overkill

When I was hunting out in the garage for all of the rest of my Psychology hardcover & oversized books, I managed to tweak my lower back, right near the base of my hips.....but.....I was obsessive & kept unpacking & getting the books on the shevles. All told, maybe a bit over 1/2 the shelves were used up, with fiction on the short side of a L shape, and non-fiction on the other.....so, I'm looking at all this space left over...and decide that I'm going to dump all the occult, witchcraft, satanism & paranormal books in there too. I moved all the fiction books over to the shelves with the non-fiction, taking up about 3/4 of the long side of the L, and put the occult ect on the short side of the L. Now....maybe 2/3 of the short side & 3/4 of the long side is taken. I get the feeling that I'm missing some books though. I find it a little odd that my occult books stop with the auther last name S.....where's T-Z? So....now all I need is a conservative, straight, christian to sleep in there. :)

Accomplishments

#1 - Since 2/28/05, I have lost a total of 8 lbs. Don't know how many inches....getting measured at Curves tomorrow night. #2 - Rik finished putting up the bookshelves in 1 of the spare bedrooms. As of now....I have all of the Psychology (College texts mostly), Human Sexuality (mostly gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered & BDSM stuff), Self-Help (lots of stuff on differing types of abuse, addictions, co-dependancy, self esteem issues, love & relationships), Erotic Fiction (straight, gay, lesbian, BDSM), and Porn videos (All freebies from Adam & Eve, so mostly het oriented stuff, or girl-on-girl for male enjoyment) on the shelves & in alpha order by author (title in case of videos). Phoebe....you might be interested in looking at the 2 volume set I have from Havelock Ellis on the Psychology of Sex (1942 edition), and another 2 volume set from Wilhelm Stekel on Sadism & Masochism (1953 edition).

Somewhat accurate

Advanced Global Personality Test Results Extraversion |||||||||||||||| 66% Stability |||||||||||| 50% Orderliness |||||||||||||| 60% Empathy |||||||||||||| 56% Interdependence |||||||||||||| 56% Intellectual |||||||||||||||| 70% Mystical |||||||||||||||| 70% Artistic |||||||||||| 43% Religious |||| 16% Hedonism || 10% Materialism |||||||||||||||||||| 83% Narcissism |||||||||||||| 56% Adventurousness |||||||||||| 50% Work ethic |||||||||||| 50% Self absorbed |||||||||||||||| 63% Conflict seeking |||||| 30% Need to dominate |||||||||||||||| 70% Romantic |||||||||||||||| 70% Avoidant |||||||||| 36% Anti-authority |||||||||||||||| 70% Wealth |||||||||| 36% Dependency |||| 16% Change averse |||||||||| 36% Cautiousness |||||| 30% Individuality |||||||||||||||||| 76% Sexuality |||||||||||||||| 70% Peter pan complex |||| 16% Physical security |||||||||||||||||||| 90% Food indulgent |||||||||||||||| 70% Histrionic |||||||||||||| 56% Paranoia |||||||||||| 50% Vanity |||||||||||||| 56% Hypersensitivity |||||||||||||||| 70% Female cliche |||||||||||||||||||| 90%

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personality tests by similarminds.com Stability results were moderately low which suggests you are worrying, insecure, emotional, and anxious. Orderliness results were moderately high which suggests you are, at times, overly organized, reliable, neat, and hard working at the expense of flexibility, efficiency, spontaneity, and fun. Extraversion results were high which suggests you are overly talkative, outgoing, sociable and interacting at the expense too often of developing your own individual interests and internally based identity. trait snapshot: expressive, open, self revealing, loves large parties, loud, social, outgoing, does not like social isolation, assertive, social chameleon, positive, always busy, likes to fit in, likes to stand out, enjoys leadership, brutally honest, trusting, optimistic, desires attention, dominant, aggressive, attachment prone, wants to be understood, realistic

Oh why not

Got this from a friend: Reply if you have or have had at any time a crush on me. Anonymous posting enabled. (though I'd love to know who you are) Then post this in YOUR journal

Compromise/New Beginnings?

I had a nice long chat with my boss today...and got a lot off my chest. 1. I told her that they needed to wake up & realize that the reason there was such high turnover was not due to people wanting more $$ and finding other jobs....a lot of it is just plain due to people not being happy, and they need to look at the departments with the highest turnover & really take a good look at the managers there & see if that might not be where some of the problems lay (lie?) I said that most people weren't going to actually pipe up and say 'hey my manager is a jerk'.....because more often than not, the repercussions aren't worth it. They need to just take matters into their own hands & see everything for what it is. 2. I told her that I didn't like being talked down to, I didn't like her over-explaining things to me, and that I felt that she treated me poorly whenever she was having a bad day. I said that I understood that she was under a lot of pressure, and that there were issues of mistakes being made by other people....but that unless she could point out where I had screwed up or let her down in the last 3.5 years....that she needed to stop treating me like I was part of the problem. I said that I felt like she was doing the 'do as I say, not as I do' routine with me....by calling me to the carpet for being bitchy when I'm under stress, but then turning around and exhibiting the same behaviors herself. 3. I told her that I was bored and that I really needed more to do....I also said that I understood that she felt that she didn't have time to train me to take over some of her work, but that I believed that the time spent training me, in the long run would be more than re-paid by the time saved by her not have to do or worry about whatever work she decided to pass my way. 4. She almost seemed like she was asking my permission to start looking for a HR Manager.....as if maybe I would be upset that I wasn't asked to take the position. I told her that at this time, I didn't want a management position. I told her that I know I'm not really cut out for it, and that I don't have the experience needed. I said that all of this is not about me wanting a management position, it's about me wanting more to do. 5. She outlined her future department staffing plans (hopes). She wants to hire a Regional Branch Manager, to oversee all the branch issues & to take over all the training for the whole company. She wants to hire a HR Manager, someone who could eventually take over a significant part of her work, as well as doing the bulk of the recruiting. She also wants to hire a clerical type person who can take over the more clerical & reception parts of my job, and thereby get me away from the front desk & possibly into a office (with a door even). 6. She told me she wants to re-vamp the job descriptions for our department & she wants me to look at the current descriptions for the HR Assistant (my job), HR Generalist, Operations Trainer, and HR Manager.....and pick out what from those descriptions I would be willing to keep doing, or take on.....what I'm not willing (or able) to do, and what can be given over to a clerical person. So....what this means for me in the short term, is that if I get a 2nd interview is the SF PUC, I'm going to turn it down. All I've been wanting from my job is to be treated with more respect, and to be better utilized. IF everything my boss & I discussed actually happens, I'll be quite satisfied. If not.....well, there's still July. :)

Things to Think About

Payroll for City of SF, PUC Known Pros 1. At least $6,500.00 per year more than I currently make. 2. 10 minute drive to/from BART, 80 minutes round-trip on BART, BART is practically on their doorstep. 3. More than likely, more work....their payroll is upwards of 1500 people, and deals with at least 15 different Union contracts. 4. New people, new situations. Known Cons 1. I'd be a small fish in a very large pond. 2. From what little they told me about the job.....I'd being doing part of payroll, and that's it....doing HR doesn't even enter the picture unless you are higher up on the ladder. 3. New people, new situations. Current Job My actual title is Human Resources Assistant. In the larger corporate areas, this is actually an entry level HR position. In my company....it seems to be a lot more than that. I look at my job as a 3 layer cake. The bottom layer is entry level work & entry level knowledge. The middle is intermediate level & knowledge, and the top would be a management position. The middle position, at my company, is called a Generalist. The biggest difference in the 2 positions is that the Generalist is in charge of posting classifieds, recruiting, interviewing, orientations & some training. If I look at everything as objectively as I can....I'd say my job is 90+% bottom layer, 50% middle layer & maybe 20% top layer of the cake. I process payroll from beginning to end. I process just about everything to do with our benefits. I process employee terminations & COBRA. I keep up with all the changes in Wage & Labor laws. I update the Employee Handbook annually. I've posted classifieds & reviewed resumes (but I haven't gone beyond that). I'm usually the 1st person the other employees come to when they have questions about their job requirements, benefits, payroll, or anything else that is vaguely HR related. If I don't have the answers, I'll get them, or I'll send you to someone who has them. The 2 biggest problems that I have with my job is that I do not feel that I have enough to do.....and I feel that my boss (maybe 50% of the time) treats me poorly. The CEO has assured me that my position will be changing & taking on greater responsibilities....and my boss has been saying she'll retire this year. The biggest pro....I can use what I have learned as a broad base to work from....I have a good beginning-intermediate background in HR....and if I choose to go further, I could. Not to mention, that I am important to my company. I know this, and they know this. I'm not sure I could be happy moving into a position that locks me into 1 sub-section of a large field....where I'm just another nameless face. So, what I have to work out, if I am even offered the SF PUC job.... Do I go for more $$, but a potentially boring job..... or Do I believe that things really will change at my current company??

My Interview

Situational Questions 1. How would you deal with an employee who thought they were shorted overtime pay on their paycheck? 2. How would you deal with an employee who constantly called you, asking where their bonus paycheck was? 3. If your work load was doubled because a co-worker went on vacation, how would you deal with it? 4. How have you dealt with conflict with another co-worker? Math Questions 1. If someone works 35 hours in a 2 week pay period, and 2 days of the pay period were holidays, how many holiday hours will they get paid for? Assume that a full-time 8/80 worker earns 1/10 holiday pay and extrapolate the part-time worker hours from that. 2. If someone normally makes $55.30 per hour, is currently receiving a 5% pay increase due to a shift differential, what is their gross paycheck for a 80 hour pay period?

Poly Wolly Wigwam

Heavenly Perfection You're 86% Poly =) 90% tolerant of the poly lifestyle =) (But... you're 5% just in it for the sex =))

Ooooooohhhh Aaaaaaaaahhhhhh You're poly. You're tolerant of poly lifestyle. (Good for you you like yourself!) You're not just here for the sex. And you won't lie to your mate. I *Like* YOU. Congratualtions on being a pretty good person =) Gabriel_Night Oh - just so you don't go off wondering - the first question? the one about monogamous cultures? the answer is 16% of recorded cultures have been monogamous - 84% have been non monogamous! how about that? =)

My test tracked 4 variables How you compared to other people your age and gender: You scored higher than 99% on True Poly You scored higher than 66% on Tolerance You scored higher than 16% on Sex Only You scored higher than 1% on Honesty

Link: The Polyamorous Test written by Gabriel_Night on Ok Cupid

Let me be Frank

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Huh

I have a lot of alcohol around here, but I rarely drink....but it's all mine...

Bourbon Congratulations! You're 118 proof, with specific scores in beer (40) , wine (83), and liquor (60).

Screw all that namby-pamby chick stuff, you're going straight for the bottle and a shot glass! It'll take more than a few shots of Wild Turkey or 99 Bananas before you start seeing pink elephants. You know how to handle your alcohol, and yourself at parties.

My test tracked 4 variables How you compared to other people your age and gender: You scored higher than 37% on proof You scored higher than 84% on beer index You scored higher than 89% on wine index You scored higher than 87% on liquor index

Link: The Alcohol Knowledge Test written by hoppersplit on Ok Cupid

Ooops I Did It (wrong) Again

It's been about a year now since I changed my hair color from the vibrant burgundy. That whole time I've been trying to find the 'perfect' shade of a light brown/dark blonde that I saw on a Clairol box last year. I've used that same color 4 times, and it never came out right. I've been too dark, too light....never just right. Now....I'm definately not right...a bit too brassy looking, and doesn't really suit my coloring at all....so....once I get past this interview, and I think I can do it w/o my hair falling out... I'm going back to the burgundy. I've got 4 boxes of that same color...and I'm just tired of trying to find the elusive perfect shade of light brown/dark blonde. Honestly, I don't think I've look quite 'right' since I've changed colors....having hair that total strangers would compliment me on was a part of my identity....it was one of the things that made me different & stand out...and with the myriad shades of brown & blonde I've had during the last year....I just kinda look.....blah.

Mountains & Molehills

Most of you that have spoken with me during the last 6+ months, know that I am less than thrilled with my job. 1. Boss is a PITA. 2. Not enough work to keep me busy. 3. Uniform! So.....in January, I saw a great position posting for a payroll clerk for the City/County of SF....making at least $6,500.00 more a year than I currently make. The cut-off date for application submission was 1/24/05, and I fired mine off on 1/20. So...hadn't heard a peep, pretty much wrote them off. My co-worker just gave her 2 week notice, and her last day is Friday the 18th. What do I get in the mail today?? City & County of San Francisco, Public Utilities Commission - "We have scheduled you for a qualifying interview on Wednesday March 16 at 4:00 PM." So....I need to tell my boss I have a doctor appointment at 1 on Wednesday....and hope she will let me out of there.....and hope that she doesn't ask for proof. She never has before....but there's always a 1st time.... IF IF IF they actually offer me the job.....then I have to learn how to not feel guilty for leaving my current company with no Human Resources department, other than my boss.....

If anyone Cares

It has been somewhat of a tradition to use March Fusion as a time to also celebrate Vicki's birthday. So....I'm baking 2 13x9 cakes for tonight. Strawberry w/ lemon icing & Devil's Food w/ cream cheese icing. Hopefully enough people going tonight will see this & not bring more cake. :)

The more I ponder, the more I agree

From my previous post - To be a Satanist, you don't actually have to believe in Satan. Satanism generally focuses upon the spiritual advancement of the self, rather than upon submission to a deity or a set of moral codes. When people ask me about my views on religion....I often have a difficult time explaining myself. I do not believe in God. I do not believe that there is a single deity. I am willing to consider the idea that there is a pantheon of sort (similar maybe to the 12 Olympians)....but even that I will not concretely say I believe this. I claim Pagan....as a catch all, but if I were to be totally honest....Satanism is a lot closer to what my belief pattern really is. I'm too self-centered & mean to be your typical nature loving, earth saving Wiccan-type....but not quite self-centered enough to follow all of what Anton La Vey preaches. I tend to have the white knight syndrome & think I can save the people I care about, if they'd just listen to me. :) Anyways....refresher from a post I made in 2003. The bold stuff is what I most agree with.....Note, I said agree...but that doesn't mean I necessarily manifest those things in my life...although....maybe I should....I so need to work on #6. The Nine Satanic Statements from The Satanic Bible, ©1969 by Anton Szandor LaVey 1. Satan represents indulgence instead of abstinence! 2. Satan represents vital existence instead of spiritual pipe dreams! 3. Satan represents undefiled wisdom instead of hypocritical self-deceit! 4. Satan represents kindness to those who deserve it instead of love wasted on ingrates! 5. Satan represents vengeance instead of turning the other cheek! 6. Satan represents responsibility to the responsible instead of concern for psychic vampires! 7. Satan represents man as just another animal, sometimes better, more often worse than those that walk on all-fours, who, because of his “divine spiritual and intellectual development,” has become the most vicious animal of all! 8. Satan represents all of the so-called sins, as they all lead to physical, mental, or emotional gratification! 9. Satan has been the best friend the Church has ever had, as He has kept it in business all these years!

Proof of my evilness

You scored as Satanism. Your beliefs most closely resemble those of Satanism! Before you scream, do a bit of research on it. To be a Satanist, you don't actually have to believe in Satan. Satanism generally focuses upon the spiritual advancement of the self, rather than upon submission to a deity or a set of moral codes. Do some research if you immediately think of the satanic cult stereotype. Your beliefs may also resemble those of earth-based religions such as paganism. Satanism 83% atheism 75% Buddhism 67% paganism 58% Hinduism 38% agnosticism 38% Judaism 25% Islam 21% Christianity 8% Which religion is the right one for you? (new version) created with QuizFarm.com

(sigh)

You ever just want sympathy & consolance....and instead you get cold practicality?

Thoughts from my Seminar

I can't remember if I mentioned that I was attending a seminar on "Managing your Emotions Under Pressure"....I think I did when I was talking about my goals. Anyways....behind the cut is some things I took from it, things I can hopefully focus on, remember, learn from and grow better because of. In every one of your conflicts, you are part of the conflict and you can be part of the solution. Change takes 3 weeks to 6 months before it feels comfortable and normal. Baby steps to change = success. Stop letting the disparaging voice in your head talk to you into not making a change. If you always do what you have always done, you will always get what you have always got. Repetition is the key to learning. No one can make you feel anything. You have to consent and agree to the feeling. You control how you feel and react to any given event. You control how you interpret any given event. You are responsible for your past and your future. E + R = O, Event + Response = Outcome You’re in charge if you want your life to change. When we place blame, emotions are attached to it. Depression, guilt and sadness = blame of self. Anger = blame of someone else. Anxiety = blame the way that the world works. 100% = All. There is no more than 100%. You can’t give or do more than 100%. Negative = bad. It hurts you to think and believe that something bad is good. If you had to physically pay (broken/missing body parts) to make a person or situation be everything you want them to be, is it worth the price? Is it worth it to let someone else have power over how you think, feel and react? How bad was whatever happened, really? Is the situation the worst thing that could happen in your life, short of death? Must, Should, Have to, Got to, Need to, Ought = 100% Imperative Requirement. These words often have someone else’s values attached to them. We are demanding that the world works the way we want it to. The world won’t think, act, feel, or believe the same way that you do. Do you want to be right or be happy? Sometimes when we choose to be right, it causes more pain, frustration and problems than if we had chosen to be happy. QTIP = Quit Taking It Personally. Most of the time, it has nothing to do with you. Facts and evidence show that situations are not always what we first perceive them to be. We get upset when we expect or demand someone to behave a certain way and then they don’t. A person behaves however they want to. All we can control is how we choose to feel and react. Why are you going to give someone else power? If you change what you do, might you get a different outcome? We teach other people how to treat us, by how we treat ourselves. Do not let one person or event effect how you see yourself. If 99 people you care for think that you’re great and 1 person that you care for doesn’t, that does not mean that you have suddenly changed into something bad or unlovable. When you give your energy to something, be sure it’s worth it. Be who you really are and do what makes you really happy.

(cough)(cough) Ma, May, Me, Moe, Moo

Kermit The Frog - The Rainbow Connection Why are there so many Songs about rainbows And what's on the other side Rainbows are visions But only illusions And rainbows have nothing to hide So we've been told and some choose to Believe it I know they're wrong wait and see Someday we'll find it The Rainbow Connection The lovers, the dreamers and me Who said that every wish Would be heard and answered When wished on the morning star Somebody thought of that And someone believed it And look what its done so far What's so amazing That keeps us star gazing What do we think we might see Someday we'll find it That Rainbow Connection The lovers, the dreamers and me all of us under its spell we know that it's probably magic. Have you been half asleep And have you heard voices I've heard them calling my name Is this the sweet sound That calls the young sailors The voice might be one and the same I've heard it too many times to ignore it it's something that I'm supposed to be Someday we'll find it The Rainbow Connection The lovers, the dreamers and me

Things I've done that you might not have

1. Had a lesbian dominatrix be the official at my wedding. 2. Been kissed by 1 professional wrestler & propositioned by another (both events over 5 years apart). 3. Had sex with 21 different people in a 9 month span (almost 1/2 my life ago). 4. Been the official at a close friend's wedding. 5. Given a brand to a relative stranger. 6. Performed in 1 capacity or another for a Rocky Horror Cast for 7 years. 7. Heard several ghosts speak, in a graveyard. 8. Had sex on the front lawn of a church, near midnight. 9. Manage to go for years, with people I see several times a month, not knowing what my real name is.

Support, and I don't mean hose....

Monday - I had made up my mind that I was going to join Curves, and I was already a week into trying to monitor my food intake. So, shortly after I got into work my boss, the VP of HR, gave me a bag of Dove Chocolates. I'm pretty much the Keeper of the Candy (and other munchies) around the Administration department. If you want chocolate, I probably have some. If you missed breakfast or lunch, I've probably got granola bars, crackers or chips. SO anyways....I politely handed my boss the bag of candy back, and told her that I am not being the Candy Pusher at this time. I am trying to lose weight, and I don't think having a bag of chocolate in my drawer is going to be helping towards that goal. So....she took it back & has it in her office now. Later in the day, there was a birthday cake for someone in Admin....and I politely turned down having a piece. I got asked 3 times, and all 3 time I said "No thanks", loud enough that the other people in the gathering could hear. Several people looked at me like I was nuts for turning down the cake. Tuesday - I signed up for Curves last night, and was going to have my 1st workout tonight after work. I was rather proud of myself for even getting this far. I know that signing up for a gym sounds like no big deal, but for me.....someone who is generally lazy & lacking in motivation when it comes to diet & exercise....this is an accomplishment for me. SO.....now, the CEO gave me 2 bags of chocolates this afternoon. She left them on my desk while I was away delivering mail. When I got back, I looked at it, and then promptly put the bags in the community area of Admin, in 1 of the cupboards. A little while later, 1 of my co-workers asked what I did with the candy, because she wanted some. She asked loud enough that several other co-workers heard & wanted in on the Choc-Fest. I told them where the candy was and let them know that they were welcome to it. Then, the CEO and 2 other female co-workers.....all who have had (or currently HAVE) weight & diet issues in the past....proceed to laugh at me & tell me that eating some won't kill me. "If your on Weight Watchers, it's only 1 point!!" I politely demurred and said that I didn't want any. Then 1 of them harangues me about how if I just deny myself "everything" that I won't be able to keep the weight off once I lose it. I told her that I do eat candy daily, but not to excess. I have 2 Milky Way caramel bites in the evening, and 3-4 cookies at lunch....as well as just my usual diet.....popcorn (butter or cheddar), pasta, sugar cereals.....so it's not like I'm "denying" myself. I'm just refraining from going overboard with it all. It's all about the serving sizes....I don't need to scarf down 1/2 pound of chocolate throughout my day. My husband....supports me. He's also doing the 'serving portion only' diet, as well as exercising daily at home. But....I'm not at home with my husband for the bulk of my day. I'm trying to go with the adage of "Lead me not into temptation....I can find it well enough on my own"....but I feel like none of my co-workers are taking me seriously.....It's funny though, when other women at work have been on diets in the past, most of the other women there would congratulate them and offer them support when they needed it & pats on the back when they reached whatever their goals were. For me though....bags of candy, laughter & pressure.......and all I want is a little support.