Thoughts from my Seminar

I can't remember if I mentioned that I was attending a seminar on "Managing your Emotions Under Pressure"....I think I did when I was talking about my goals. Anyways....behind the cut is some things I took from it, things I can hopefully focus on, remember, learn from and grow better because of. In every one of your conflicts, you are part of the conflict and you can be part of the solution. Change takes 3 weeks to 6 months before it feels comfortable and normal. Baby steps to change = success. Stop letting the disparaging voice in your head talk to you into not making a change. If you always do what you have always done, you will always get what you have always got. Repetition is the key to learning. No one can make you feel anything. You have to consent and agree to the feeling. You control how you feel and react to any given event. You control how you interpret any given event. You are responsible for your past and your future. E + R = O, Event + Response = Outcome You’re in charge if you want your life to change. When we place blame, emotions are attached to it. Depression, guilt and sadness = blame of self. Anger = blame of someone else. Anxiety = blame the way that the world works. 100% = All. There is no more than 100%. You can’t give or do more than 100%. Negative = bad. It hurts you to think and believe that something bad is good. If you had to physically pay (broken/missing body parts) to make a person or situation be everything you want them to be, is it worth the price? Is it worth it to let someone else have power over how you think, feel and react? How bad was whatever happened, really? Is the situation the worst thing that could happen in your life, short of death? Must, Should, Have to, Got to, Need to, Ought = 100% Imperative Requirement. These words often have someone else’s values attached to them. We are demanding that the world works the way we want it to. The world won’t think, act, feel, or believe the same way that you do. Do you want to be right or be happy? Sometimes when we choose to be right, it causes more pain, frustration and problems than if we had chosen to be happy. QTIP = Quit Taking It Personally. Most of the time, it has nothing to do with you. Facts and evidence show that situations are not always what we first perceive them to be. We get upset when we expect or demand someone to behave a certain way and then they don’t. A person behaves however they want to. All we can control is how we choose to feel and react. Why are you going to give someone else power? If you change what you do, might you get a different outcome? We teach other people how to treat us, by how we treat ourselves. Do not let one person or event effect how you see yourself. If 99 people you care for think that you’re great and 1 person that you care for doesn’t, that does not mean that you have suddenly changed into something bad or unlovable. When you give your energy to something, be sure it’s worth it. Be who you really are and do what makes you really happy.