How to deal with Valia 1.0

This should be interesting 1. How can I tell if you are angry? Um, I'm pretty obvious about it. If I'm not at work or in public, I tend to stomp around & slam doors/cupboards. If I am in public, I tend to speak sharply & a bit louder. I'f I'm really upset & in private, I may throw something non-breakable across the room. 2. How should I behave around you while you are angry? If you are the one my anger is directed at, and you deserve it.....apologize & see what you can do to calm me down. If you are just an innocent bystander...offer to listen to me rant & whine. Do not try and give me calm, rational solutions right away, just let me rant & at least act like your sympathetic. When I'm ready to be calm, then I'll ask for advice on how to handle the situation. 3. How do you want me to behave when you are hurting emotionally? (How is best to comfort you?) If we have a close friendship, hold me.....show me you care. Listen to me. Be there for me. 4. Are there things we should ~not~ discuss? Sooner or later, I'll talk about anything.....but if I don't want to talk about something right then...I'll just say so. 5. How should I treat you if you are physically ill? Baby me. Rik always cooks for me, or if I'm unable to eat, he'll run to the store & buy me Gatorade. 6. What makes you happy? (that may be in my power to grant, as a friend?) Some of your time & attention. 7. How would you like for us to recognize your birthday? Presents are always nice. A surprise party would be cool, if you could actually keep me from finding out. :) 8. Are there any standing categories of presents that would be appropriate or unwelcome? Well if we're casual friends, expensive things would be inappropriate. If we aren't romantically involved....things you'd buy a lover would be awkward. 9. Are there times of the year that are difficult for you? (please explain if you are comfortable.) Not that I'm aware of. I have ups & downs all the time, nothing seasonal or tied to major events. 10. Are there important anniversaries that we should recognize in your life? My husband & my slave (2 different people) should remember my birthday & our anniversary. Anyone else....birthday would be nice, but since I don't remember many other people's it'd be hypocritical to expect everyone to remember mine. 11. Who are the most important people in your life to whom we should defer when making plans on your behalf? Rik & Vicki, in that order. 12. What do you share with others? Depends on who the others are & how close they are to me. My co-workers know very little about me personally. Neither does my family. Rik & Vicki probably know everything there is to know....and the rest of the people that I consider acquaintances through to close friends are somewhere between the 2 extremes. 13. What do you NOT share with others? My husband. :) Anything personal & private until I'm ready to share it. My emails (unless invited). My teen-age notebook journal (unless invited, but I've been tempted to post some of it here). My toiletries. 14. How does someone become your friend? Show a genuine interest in me as a person. Not as a domme, a sadist, a set of boobs.....but just a thinking, caring, breathing human being. 15. How does someone lose you as a friend? Lie to me. Mistreat me. Use me. Or....do the same to people that I really care about. 16. What scares you? Being alone. Being a failure. Conforming. 17. About what are you most sensitive? My honesty & integrity are the 1st thing I can think of. I don't like having either one called into question. My weight & looks. I've always been insecure about my level of attractiveness.