I CAN DO THIS ONE!!!

In the year 2006 I resolve to: Slap stupid people in the head. Get your resolution here

Shame the picture isn't better

Leather Lesbian "She is the warrior, always fighting and challanging barriers".
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She's So Pop-u-lar

I get to go to 2 parties this weekend! Friday night = Citadel Saturday night = Private party in SJ and to make things even better, I have Monday off. :)

1 last thing before bed

Can someone let me know what the sub/unsub addresses for Frenzi & SMOdyssey are? I'm going to need to swap them over. Guess I'll be re-locating all my Yahoo groups too. Damn.....too much work!!!

OK, I'm impatient

The new Yahoo ID is.......wait for it...... valiaderekin Those of you who want me to have you on IM or in my email address book (and after what just happened, I'll understand if you don't)....please let me know. Post is locked, comments are screened.

Opinions?

So, should I start up a new IM & email account ASAP, or wait to see if YAHOO can save mstrs_valia? I'm thinking of Valia_Is_Evil for the new account name....if I end up having to get one. Why not Valia? Well, when I first got on Yahoo, it was taken....and I assume it still is...but I will check that out before making anything else up. :)

FUCK IT ALL

If anyone received a YAHOO IM from me today with the message below Found this for Xmass laughs , www.geocities.com/for.laughs Merry Xmass all I am sorry! Apparently it's some sort of spam, and anyone who clicked on the link and entered their name/password may have their account compromised. I did.....I can not access my IM or e-mail....because somehow my password & personal information have been changed. I'm sorry for any trouble this has caused anyone else.

Perfessor meet Professor

You are Professor X! You are a very effective teacher, and you are very
committed to those who learn from you. You put
your all into everything you do, to some extent
because you fear failure more than anything
else. You are always seeking self-improvement,
even in areas where there is nothing you can do
to improve.

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How Disappointing

How evil are you?

Let's Talk About Sex

Your Pornstar Name is: Venus Vanity Take this quiz at QuizUniverse.com

Your hottest bedroom accessory is yourself You are damn hot and you don’t need anything else to help you seduce your man or woman. To you, the look of your bedroom comes in second to all of your bedroom activities. Take this quiz at QuizUniverse.com

Vacation

I'm fianlly FREE....well cheap anyways. :) I'm on vacation and don't return to work until 12/27. Other than trying to finish the last (AFTER 16 months) of our unpacking and get some more of our home decor on the walls, I don't have much planned. So, if you see me on-line, it really is me. Gimme a nudge. :)

Personal Ads

I decided it was time to change the personal ads on www.bondage.com and www.collarme.com See behind the cut if you want. :) My #1 requirement - If at the end of the day, you can NOT remove your dick & put it into the drawer beside your bed....I do NOT want to hear from you. NOTE OF HONESTY - I am technically bisexual, but outside of my husband, I have no interest in males. I list myself as gay, so that I won't show up as a match for males. CONSIDER YOURSELF WARNED....I'm not lying about, or hiding the fact that I am married. Do you crave the thud of a flogger, the sting of a cane or single tail, the smack of a paddle or bare hand? When your nipples are cruelly pinched & your breasts are grabbed hard enough to bruise, do you find yourself on the edge of an orgasm? Do you get all fluttery inside seeing a bunch of S/M toys and start to imagine all the ways they could be used on you? Well then, you just might be the woman that I’m looking for! To make it clear, I am a sadistic top first & foremost. If you exist to serve someone and follow their every order….I may not be the person for you. While obedience IS important to me, I really want a partner who is a masochist first & foremost. Someone who takes the pain because THEY want it….not just because I want them to. Someone who ENJOYS all forms of sensation….thuddy, stingy, burning, tickling, soft caresses, hard bites….and whatever else comes into my devious little head. Now that I have your attention….here’s a few important things that you need to know about me, and a few qualities that I hope are contained within you. Who I am - 35 years old, tall, intelligent, strong, voluptuous, feminine, and sadistic. Married, bisexual (but ONLY interested in women), and polyamorous. I've been into BDSM since 1992, and I've been an active part of the Bay Area scene since 1994. I'm looking for a woman (or women) to be my lover, play-partner & friend. I'm not interested in 1-night stands, but 'friends with benefits' is a damn fine idea. I'm not necessarily looking for true love & a life-long commitment, but trust, honesty & friendship are a MUST. I DO have a submissive partner who shares my home, but while our relationship is D/S (mostly service) based, it is a platonic relationship, and outside of our relationship, she is dominant towards others. Who you are - FEMALE (bio or Post Op TS), masochistic is preferred, and obedience is a PLUS. Total submission isn't required, but I must be honest & say that I don't play well with women who are SAM's or bratty most of the time. Once in a while is quite fun, but daily doses tend to wear me out & fray my temper. I prefer intelligent, stable, mature women. Someone who's got their sh*t together, so to speak. Someone with a satisfying life OUTSIDE of the bedroom & BDSM arena, someone who would be just as happy watching TV with me, as they would be tied up & flogged by me. I don't care what your relationship status is....so long as you are NOT cheating on your partner. I do NOT do cheating, or 'discrete' relationships. I conduct myself with honesty & integrity, and I prefer to be close to people who do the same. That gets the important points out of the way. If you are interested & want to know more....you know what to do. :)

SWING.....FORE!!!

FOUR JOBS YOU'VE HAD IN YOUR LIFE: 1. Counselor at a Jewish summer camp (and I'm not Jewish) 2. Assistant Manager at Penguin's Yogurt 3. Accounts Payable/Payroll for a HVAC construction company 4. Cook & cashier at several BUrger King's FOUR MOVIES YOU COULD WATCH OVER AND OVER: 1. Gone with the Wind 2. Almost anything with Jackie Chan 3. Bound 4. Showgirls FOUR PLACES YOU'VE LIVED IN: 1. Dewitt, MI 2. Olathe, KS 3. Moore, OK 4. Hayward, CA FOUR TV SHOWS YOU LOVE(d) TO WATCH: 1. Whose Line Is It 2. The Drew Carey Show 3. WWE Raw 4. TNA Impact FOUR PLACES YOU'VE BEEN ON VACATION: 1. Disneyland 2. Reno 3. Lake Tahoe 4. Mexican Riviera FOUR WEBSITES YOU VISIT DAILY: 1. LiveJournal 2. Tribe 3. CollarMe 4. MSN FOUR OF YOUR ALL-TIME FAVORITE RESTAURANTS: 1. Johnny Carinos - Fairfield, CA 2. Buckhorn's - Winters, CA 3. Red Lobster - Anywhere 4. Texas Roadhouse - Union City, CA FOUR OF YOUR FAVORITE FOODS: 1. Crab Rangoon 2. Chicken & Pasta in Thai Peanut Sauce 3. Chocolate 4. Lobster FOUR SCHOOLS YOU'VE ATTENDED: 1. Patrick Henery Junior High - Sioux Falls, SD 2. Shadow Mountain High School - Phoenix, AZ 3. Carlmont High School - Belmont, CA 4. UC Santa Cruz - BA in 1996 FOUR PLACES I'D RATHER BE RIGHT NOW: 1. Anyplace warm, tropical & exotic 2. My warm bed 3. In a hidden treasure chamber counting all my gold doubloons 4. 'trapped' alone with a few women on my friends list

Oh Why Not

Pick one from each pair of how you see me, and then leave it in the comments... I'll follow up in a day or 2 with my own answers. * Dominant or submissive * Logical or Intuitive * Social or Loner * Kinky or Vanilla * Cute or Sophisticated * Kitten or Puppy * Warm flannel sheets or Sleek satin * Leader or Follower * Quiet or Talkative * Spontaneous or Planned * Teddy bear or Porcelain doll * Hiking or Window shopping * Tequila or Vodka * Top or bottom * Barefoot or Shoes * Jeans or Slacks * Tender or Rough * Aware or Dreamy * Nerd or Geek * Boxers or Briefs * Coke or Pepsi * Leather or Lace * Before sleep or After waking up * Comedy or Tragedy * Pirate or Ninja * Hot or Not

I'm not good at this

Asking for things.... But they say if you put things out to the Universe, you might get what you ask for. OK...here goes.... While I REALLY enjoy all the play I've been honoured to participate in during the last 18 months or so.... I really miss being able to truly let go and just hurt someone. Honestly, on a 1-10 scale, I am most definately a 6-10 player....and while I really like doing the 'fluffy bunny' stuff, I'm at the point now where I really wish I could find someone that I didn't have to hold back with....someone who's idea of a 7 isn't my idea of a 3 or 4....and to put it bluntly, those people have been few & far between for me. Sigh....honestly, this is one of the things I miss about Dana. We played very well together.....but alas, there were other compatibility issues that made it difficult for us to continue being together....and being in a casual relationship with her...after being as connected as we were for a year....just wasn't something that was possible.

Another OKCupid Test

I like the outcome, and I think it's accurate enough....but the whole focus of the test is how you as a female would react to males....um...that was tough, since I haven't been into males since July 1993.
What is your sexual appeal?
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Wish me Luck

I'm doing something I haven't done in years..... I'm going to a party..... Alone

Party Tonight

Right now I'm feeling very ambivilent about going to the Monthly 2nd Saturday Party. The superficial reasons - 1. The space is cold. 2. I usually feel somewhat uncomfortable around the male 1/2 of the couple that owns the space. The not so superficial reasons - 1. I want to spend some time with my husband that doesn't involve me having a deadline to get home & get ready for a party. 2. I'm tired. It's been a long several weeks & I just don't think having another late night is going to make me less tired. 3. I feel like I'm not really....necessary. Most of the people who will most likely attend this party have no interest in playing with me & I'm getting tired of feeling like a wall flower. 4. I'm feeling another one of these moods coming on http://www.livejournal.com/users/valiaderekin/111041.html and I don't think it would be fair or right to subject other people to my potential anger & disappointment. So, if 8PM rolls around & you don't see me.....I decided to stay home. :)

Haven't tried this yet

1. Go to http://www.googlism.com/ 2. Enter your first name into the search box and Googlism! yourself. 3. Pick the twenty BEST responses, and list them. 4. Bold your favorite of the BEST Valia is prolly my most beeyootiful charachter to date tho Valia is responsible for managing nortel networks overall business in india Valia is dragged off to the stocks and chained there Valia is no exception Valia is a local tax calculated on the increase in value of the land from when it was last sold Valia is a modern complex built in the traditional island manner offering an excellent standard of accommodation in self catering studios and apartments Valia is prepared to become queen if needed Valia is truly a veteran with a work experience of over 30 years in the polymer field Valia is no longer accurate Valia is pretty frickin sweet Valia is a sikh who lives in highland Valia is right Valia is the largest supplier of chemicals and dyestuffs to leading corporations Valia is in bed Valia is exceptional Valia is organzing committee member and plays for baslog Valia is no longer working for the daycare and is looking for another job Valia is an old one Valia is a nonprofit foundation created in 1973 for the purpose of supplementing the social security Valia is a woodland elf

How to deal with Valia 1.0

This should be interesting 1. How can I tell if you are angry? Um, I'm pretty obvious about it. If I'm not at work or in public, I tend to stomp around & slam doors/cupboards. If I am in public, I tend to speak sharply & a bit louder. I'f I'm really upset & in private, I may throw something non-breakable across the room. 2. How should I behave around you while you are angry? If you are the one my anger is directed at, and you deserve it.....apologize & see what you can do to calm me down. If you are just an innocent bystander...offer to listen to me rant & whine. Do not try and give me calm, rational solutions right away, just let me rant & at least act like your sympathetic. When I'm ready to be calm, then I'll ask for advice on how to handle the situation. 3. How do you want me to behave when you are hurting emotionally? (How is best to comfort you?) If we have a close friendship, hold me.....show me you care. Listen to me. Be there for me. 4. Are there things we should ~not~ discuss? Sooner or later, I'll talk about anything.....but if I don't want to talk about something right then...I'll just say so. 5. How should I treat you if you are physically ill? Baby me. Rik always cooks for me, or if I'm unable to eat, he'll run to the store & buy me Gatorade. 6. What makes you happy? (that may be in my power to grant, as a friend?) Some of your time & attention. 7. How would you like for us to recognize your birthday? Presents are always nice. A surprise party would be cool, if you could actually keep me from finding out. :) 8. Are there any standing categories of presents that would be appropriate or unwelcome? Well if we're casual friends, expensive things would be inappropriate. If we aren't romantically involved....things you'd buy a lover would be awkward. 9. Are there times of the year that are difficult for you? (please explain if you are comfortable.) Not that I'm aware of. I have ups & downs all the time, nothing seasonal or tied to major events. 10. Are there important anniversaries that we should recognize in your life? My husband & my slave (2 different people) should remember my birthday & our anniversary. Anyone else....birthday would be nice, but since I don't remember many other people's it'd be hypocritical to expect everyone to remember mine. 11. Who are the most important people in your life to whom we should defer when making plans on your behalf? Rik & Vicki, in that order. 12. What do you share with others? Depends on who the others are & how close they are to me. My co-workers know very little about me personally. Neither does my family. Rik & Vicki probably know everything there is to know....and the rest of the people that I consider acquaintances through to close friends are somewhere between the 2 extremes. 13. What do you NOT share with others? My husband. :) Anything personal & private until I'm ready to share it. My emails (unless invited). My teen-age notebook journal (unless invited, but I've been tempted to post some of it here). My toiletries. 14. How does someone become your friend? Show a genuine interest in me as a person. Not as a domme, a sadist, a set of boobs.....but just a thinking, caring, breathing human being. 15. How does someone lose you as a friend? Lie to me. Mistreat me. Use me. Or....do the same to people that I really care about. 16. What scares you? Being alone. Being a failure. Conforming. 17. About what are you most sensitive? My honesty & integrity are the 1st thing I can think of. I don't like having either one called into question. My weight & looks. I've always been insecure about my level of attractiveness.

Here's a Flogger, Who Wants to Start?

Oh Great Cthulhu!

I have been an extremely industrious devotee this year.

In July, I bombed a cultist gathering (-100 points). When the stars were right, I rescued vickigh from being sacrificed (-200 points). In November, I sacrificed rivetheretic to Cthulhu (500 points). Last week, I rammed a ship into you (sorry Cthulhu!) (-1000 points). In June, I exposed jkuroda to soul-rending horrors (250 points). In February, I made a burnt offering to the Dead Dreamer (100 points).

In short, I have been very bad (-450 points) and deserve to be flayed alive.

Your humble and obedient servant,
ValiaDerekin

Submit your own plea to Cthulhu!

Seen on 680 to Concord

I'm surprised DMV allowed this one Seen on a black Pathfinder, driven by a woman GUYS LIE

Violet Wands & Itchy Skin

I was using a Violet Wand on a lady Friday night. During our post-scene check in, she brought up 1 concern which I've pasted below. > The only concern I have with trying them again is that for the next two days my breasts/chest and back were exceptionally itchy. > (breasts still are) I'm not certain it's related, but deductive reasoning would follow that it is. Have you ever heard of this? I've > been putting on cortizone cream and that seems to help for a few hours. It's not unbearable, but if the reaction is related, I'd think > twice before doing it again. Anyone have any idea whether the 2 ARE actually related? I personally have experienced a slight reddening of the skin (similar to a low-grade sunburn), but not itchyness AFTER the scene....during the scene, a little...but not after.

Real Doll? Living Dead Doll? Just what kind of dolly are we talking about?

Dear Santa... Dear Santa, This year I've been busy! Last Sunday I gave change to a homeless guy (19 points). In July I pulled 's hair (-5 points). Last Friday I punched in the arm (-10 points). Last Wednesday I donated bone marrow to in a life-saving procedure (300 points). Last Monday I pushed in the mud (-17 points). Overall, I've been nice (287 points). For Christmas I deserve a new dolly! Sincerely, ValiaDerekin

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A Bunch of Sins

ANGER 1. Who did you last get angry with? My former Boss Lady 2. What is your weapon of choice? Not sure, but throwing a temper tantrum would sure be nice. 3. Would you hit a member of the opposite sex? In self-defense. 4. How about of the same sex? If they asked me very nicely. :) 5. Who was the last person who got really angry at you? I don't know....my husband? 6. What is your pet peeve? Lying, cheating, prejudice, hypocrasy (sp). 7. Do you keep grudges, or can you let them go easily? I have a long memory, but I try not to keep throwing things in peoples faces every time we argue. SLOTH 1. What is one thing you're supposed to do daily that you have not done in a long time? Can't think of anything. My 'supposed to do daily' stuff is mostly hygeine related....and I think I'd be shunned if I didn't keep up with all that. :) 2. What is the latest you've ever woken up? 1-2PM, but this is after going to be around 5AM. 3. Name a person you've been meaning to contact, but haven't? No one really, I stay in touch with the people I really want to. 4. What is the last lame excuse you made? Something along the lines of 'I'm tired & in a bad mood & don't want to be social tonight.' 5. Have you ever watched an infomercial all the way through? No 6. When was the last time you got a good workout in? Well if you consider going to CURVES a good workout, I do that 3 times a week. 7. How many times did you hit the snooze button on your alarm clock today? I never hit the snooze button & I don't have an alarm on the weekends. GLUTTONY 1. What is your overpriced yuppie beverage of choice? Caramel Macchiato or Frappachino 2. Meat eater: Yup 3. Do you eat the skin of off chicken? No, it's a texture that bothers me. 4. Have you ever used a professional diet company? Just the food that's mass-marketed in the grocery stores. 5. Do you have an issue with your weight? Yes! 6. Do you prefer sweets, salty foods, or spicy foods? Sweet & salty, spicy in moderation. 7. Have you ever looked at a small house pet or child and thought, lunch? No, footballs. LUST 1. How many people have you seen naked (not counting movies/family)? After doing RHPS for 7 years, and being into BDSM for 13....it's got to be thousands by now. 2. How many people have seen YOU naked (not counting physicians/family)? See the above. I also have done a few nude photo shoots. 3. Have you ever caught yourself staring at the chest/crotch of a member of your gender of choice during a normal conversation? BOOOOOOOOBIES!!!! 4. Have you "done it"? I couldn't tell you how many times, but I could tell you with how many people & break it down into # of males & females. 5. What is your favorite body part on a person of your gender of choice? If we are strictly talking about physical packaging, see #3. 6. Have you ever been propositioned by a prostitute? No. 7. Have you ever had to get tested for an STD or pregnancy? I haven't tested for a pregnancy in over 8 years. STD's, Not as stringent about that as most....but then I've also only had sex with 1 male in the last 12 years, and about 5 women. GREED 1. How many credit cards do you own? 2 credit, 2 ATM/debit. 2. What's your guilty pleasure store? Does EBAY count? 3. If you had $1 million, what would you do with it? Only $1 million? Pay off all my outstanding debts & maybe travel or shop with whatever's left over. 4. Would you rather be rich, or famous? Rich 5. Would you accept a boring job if it meant you would make megabucks? Yes 6. Have you ever stolen anything? Yes 7. How many MP3s are on your hard drive? Mine, probably not too many. Husbands, thousands. PRIDE 1. What one thing have you done that you're most proud of? Tie - Getting my BA, and being married for over a decade. 2. What one thing have you done that your parents are most proud of? Probably the same things I listed. 3. What thing would you like to accomplish in your life? At the moment, get my 2nd BA & open my bookstore....and/or have a career I genuinely love & am good at. 4. Do you get annoyed by coming in second place? It depends on what the contest was. 5. Have you ever entered a contest of skill, knowing you were of much higher skill than all the other competitors? Not that I can think of at the moment. 6. Have you ever cheated on something to get a higher score? I never really needed to. 7. What did you do today that you're proud of? Today? I've only been awake 2 hours. :) ENVY 1. What item (or person) of your friends would you most want to have for your own? Well there's this amazing house in the Santa Cruz Mountains..... 2. Who would you want to go on "Trading Spaces" with? No one, I'm finally getting MY space the way I like it. 3. If you could be anyone else in the world, who would you be? I'm not sure I'd want to BE anyone else, but I would sure like to see what it's like to be 1 of the Top 10 Wealthiest People in America.... 4. Have you ever been cheated on? I don't know, no one's ever told me. I've certainly DONE the cheating though. 5. Have you ever wished you had a physical feature different from your own? Having a penis for a few days would be entertaining. 6. What inborn trait do you see in others that you wish you had for yourself? I'm not sure if it's an 'inborn trait', but a higher self-esteem & contentment with who I am & where I'm at in my life. 7. Do you wish you'd come up with this survey? No 8. Finally, what is your favorite deadly sin? Lust.

Beating the Dickens Out of You... Faire, Party or Both?

Anyone going? annual Victorian Kinky Christmas party at SF Citadel, in SOMA district of San Francisco 1277 Mission St at Ninth St Saturday, December 3rd, 2005 8pm – 1 am $20 ($5 discount if in Victorian garb or donating an ornament) http://sfcitadel.org http://groups.yahoo.com/group/EduKink http://edukink.tribe.net This is a very special Open Play Party, with a Holiday and Victorian theme. Many of us will first spend the day at the Dickens Faire, a reconstruction of Victorian London, as Charles Dickens saw it. Pay special attention to Mad Sal’s, the Dark Garden windows, and the Naughty French Postcards show (5:30). See http://dickensfair.com for info on the Faire, but they know nothing of the kinky party. Then we’ll wear our holiday finest to the dungeon, and help decorate the Citadel’s tree. And we’ll recreate kinky scenes inspired by the repressed sexuality of Dickens’ time. Certainly some dominance and submission. Perhaps a nice caning, or an over-the-knee spanking. They don’t call it “the English vice” for nothing. Whether you celebrate Winter Solstice, Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, or simply the snow season, come enjoy decking the tree with colorful ornaments and other pretties. We'll whip that tree into shape, and Top it with a dominant symbol of the season. Bring something to put on the tree or wear your finest Dickens Faire attire and get $5 off the evening's admission. Those who haven’t been to an event at SFCitadel should note that while this is a warm and safe environment, you’ll be exposed to people exploring some extreme erotic fantasies. This makes Postcards look quite tame. Participation not required (or offered). No RSVPs required. For work exchange, email volunteer@sfcitadel.org - - What past attendees have said: “A charming mix of kinky history and old fashioned debauchery.” “A highlight of the season. And the best dressed event.” “Amazing scenes involving corsets, canes, and hoop skirts.” - - “Victorian Kinky Christmas party” is part of a series of theme parties co-sponsored by EduKink and SFCitadel.

For MzMtnLion

Name 5 of life's simple pleasures that you like most, then pick 5 people to do the same. Try to be original and creative and not to use things that someone else has already used. Tag 5 people on your list. 1. Warm spring days with the smell of flowers & grass in the air. 2. Snuggling with my husband. 3. Long, rambling multi-topic conversations with 1 or more friends. 4. Being a certain clothing size & fitting nicely into clothing that has tags 2 sizes smaller. 5. Unexpected little presents, just because someone was thinking of you. 1. dr_moni 2. masochisticgrrl 3. venusrising 4. evilmommytina 5. ambar

Driven to Drink

I totally lost it at work yesterday. Sandra, my former boss, was on me from the get-go. We have an educational reimbursement program, and there's 1 part of it that the CEO told me to over-see almost a year ago. Through a company named CUNA, we can take on-line tutorials that cover a broad range of topics, as relates to credit unions. We have had this program with them since at least the early 90's, and as of this year, have been requiring the Board of Directors to take a bunch of classes over their multi-year terms (it used to be voluntary). The CEO decided that she wanted me to administer the on-line stuff & keep track of what the Board was taking, and to order new classes for them every other month or so. There's also 2 tracks of classes that employees of all levels can take, and the CEO wanted me to keep track of all that too, but we actually haven't had too many people taking advantage of that. Anyways....the employees, before they take any class, are supposed to submit an Educational Reimbursement Request form & have it approved before they even sign up for any type of classes. Usually, with school based, or other on-line programs, the employee pays everything up front, and then once they pass the class with a C or better, the credit union pays them back for whatever they spent on tuition & books (to a limit of $2,000 annual). However, it seems that CUNA has a slightly different way of doing things. They will bill you as soon as you sign up for a class, not after you finish it and take the test. There was some confusion on my part with this....it was my understanding that CUNA wouldn't bill us until after the class was completed....but that's neither here nor there. Former Boss-Lady didn't really know what was going on with the CUNA stuff....and didn't think she had the complete picture of who was doing what, and what we had authorized & paid for. So, I took all the folders from her & proceeded to update & organize everything.....as well as updating a spreadsheet that she was using to keep track of everyone who had been taking any sort of classes since 2000. The sheet had a few missing holes in it, as well as very little info for 2005, so I updated it & put the whole thing in a more readable format. Former Boss-Lady, after seeing my finished results.....got pissed at me for wasting my time, and for changing the format of her spreadsheet. She said that she was "deeply offended" that I would just go and change something of her. She said she realizes that she's leaving, but that doesn't mean that I have any right to change anything, until after she's gone....and that anytime anyone gives her spreadsheets or documents to work from, she never changes them.... After she got done, I left her office & went back to my desk. I took a few deep breaths and tried to calm myself down.....but it didn't work very well. I went into the CEO's office (my new boss) and just burst into tears. I told her that I was sick & tired of the way Sandra treated me & that I wasn't going to put up with it for much longer. I said that this has been going on for a long time, but that it's gotten worse since I was promoted & re-assigned out from under her. I told the CEO that Former Boss-Lady talks to me like she thinks I'm an idiot, and that she'll tell me to take on a project....and when I ask her how she wants things handled, she'll give me no input....but when I come up with a plan of action, she totally shoots it down...and still refuses to give me any input. My latest was Key Control. We have a whole lot (maybe 100) of keys that we're not sure where they go to...if they go to anything. Former Boss-Lady wanted me to find out where the keys went to, label the ones I could find matches for & throw out the rest. My 1st thought was to go through the keys, sort them out by what already had labels & what didn't....and then see if any of the keys had engraved codes on them that matched any of the codes on our Key Log. The rest I could generally figure out by type. All Steel keys went to All Steel desks & file cabinets, HON keys to HON cabinets....ect.....Well Former Boss-Lady didn't want me to do it that way. It seems that she pretty much wanted me to either psychically divine the information of what equipment/doors the keys went to....or to throw the keys out. So, Friday I dived into the project & was matching up the miscellaneous/unknown keys to a bunch of other keys that we actually have labeled and organized....and ended up finding matches for over 20 keys by then end of the day....some of the keys I found matches to, were assumed to be lost....and if I had just thrown them out....we might have ended up having to re-key the locks (kinda expensive) sometime in the future if no one in the company actually had a key to the locks. So anyways....I'm telling the CEO all of this, and I'm telling her that Former Boss-Lady has been drowning in work, but refuses to ask my help with anything but the most basic stuff. She keeps saying she doesn't have time to train me.....I said to the CEO, I'm 35-y/o, and college educated....I'm not an idiot & I don't need a whole lot of 'training'. I pointed out the fact that she & The Exec. VP have both given me projects over the years w/o a lot of explanations & have just expected me to figure it out...and have known that if I didn't understand something that I would ask for help....I said 'as far as I know, you 2 haven't had problems with how I accomplish your projects...' CEO said that as of 10/31, Former Boss-Lady shouldn't be giving me direct assignments anyway, that my work orders should be coming from the CEO, and that if Former Boss-Lady wants me to do anything, she should ask the CEO 1st. CEO said that she was going to find out what projects Former Boss-Lady is working on...what her timeline is for finishing them, and if she wants me to take anything over, she'll just give it to me, and let me handle it however I see fit. I also mentioned to the CEO that if she hadn't promoted me, that things had gotten so bad...that I was ready to put my resume online & start looking for another job. She said she pretty much figured that, and that was part of the reason she promoted me & re-assigned me. The final thing I touched on was my Former Boss-Lady's always saying that I have no people skills. I said to the CEO that she doesn't even begin to know about my people skills. I said that for months I had been biting my tongue & swallowing my frustration & anger....and that she had no idea of just how bad my temper was & how frustrated and upset I have been. I said if that is a lack of people skills....... And the title of this......one 6-shot mudslide type drink over ice after I got home.....and anyone who knows me.....knows that I rarely drink.

Best Damn Winter Holiday Display

http://www.ffmcobalt.com/WizardsofWinter-SM.wmv

More Questions

1. Who are you? 2. Are we friends? 3. When and how did we meet? 4. Do you have a crush on me? 5. Would you kiss me? 6. Give me a nickname and explain why you picked it. 7. Describe me in one word. 8. What was your first impression? 9. Do you still think that way about me now? 10. What reminds you of me? 11. If you could give me anything what would it be? 12. How well do you know me? 13. When's the last time you saw me? 14. Ever wanted to tell me something but couldn't? 15. Are you going to put this on your LJ and see what I say about you?

Maybe I'll Re-Think That

My appointment at the Hayward Kaiser tonight was actually......pleasant (and I went in to get the bits poked at). The doctor was very professional, talked straight with me. Not 1 comment about my weight, not 1 comment about my lack of children. He asked if I was interested in getting my cholesterol & thyroid check tonight, I said sure I'm here...why not. All in all....if this doctor is typical of the Hayward staff....I think I'll be revising my opinion of Kaiser.

Why I have issues with Kaiser (Fairfield anyways)

The first time I went to Kaiser in Fairfield, around May 2002, it was determined that since I have 5 tattoos....I'm a walking STD factory & needed to be tested for everything under the sun except for AIDS. When I asked them to tack on an AIDS test they said 'why do you think you have it?' I'm sure they were surprised to find out what I already knew....I'm squeeky clean. The Kaiser in Fairfield has me listed as 'morbidly obese.' I know I'm overweight....but morbidly? Maybe I'd agree if I was 200++ pounds overweight, instead of the 100 I was at the time I first saw them. The female medical professionals in Fairfield that I dealt with....weren't exactly slender themselves....so it's hard to take weight loss advice from someone who could stand to lose 50 pounds themself. The last time I dealt with the Fairfield office (Spring 2004 I think), I was lectured for over 10 minutes regarding the benefits of having children & why I should be doing my duty as a married woman by having them. So....to the present...On 11/4/05, went to the Kaiser website and ordered my baby-repellant online....like I have been doing since August 2004. Like I have always done, I requested it to be mailed to me & have my bank account debitted. Once I was finished, I printed up the confirmation page which stated that the order was received & that I should be getting the pills in the mail around the 12th. So...the 12 comes & goes...no pills. I hop on-line Sunday, and click to check the status of my order...."we have no record of your order." Um....Huh??? So I emailed their Member Service Center with the problem, trusting that I'd get an email or phone call today. By 4:30 PM, nothing.... So, I called the advice nurse, & asked for advice. She kindly informed me that since I'm due to get my girly-bits examined...they will not refill my baby-repellant until after I get my bits poked at. Then she tells me that the next available appointment is in December... Um.....no, that's not acceptable. But that's the 1st available appointment in Fairfield....um, wait a minute, I don't live in Fairfield any longer. Well you never selected a new primary provider....so we just assumed....I told her that frankly, due to the embarrassing & humiliating lectures that I received from the Fairfield staff regarding my weight issues & my lack of procreation....I was less than enamoured with idea of getting another permanent doctor. She at least was able to tell me that if I didn't like my new doctor, I was free to change anytime, as many times as I wanted.....which was nice to know, since when I joined Kaiser in 2002, I was told that once I picked a doctor, I was stuck with that doctor....period. So I said to the Advice Nurse...Fine, send me to someone in Martinez, Walnut Creek, or Hayward...whoever has something open the soonest. How's this Thursday at 6:45 PM in Hayward? Perfect, I'll take it. So tell me.....wouldn't it have been better to send some sort of reminder notice, say a month or 2 before I'm due for my annual poke-and-prod, instead of yanking my prescription...and now completely throwing me off cycle, since I won't be taking any pills for at least a week??? I mean, sheesh, they send out the mammogram reminders pretty regularly (according to my boss, who has gotten 2 reminders in the last 3 months).....

Only a Few Will Care

RIP Eddie Guerrero 1967-2005 http://www.wwe.com/

Stolen from 1 of my favorite redheads

1. ONE OF YOUR SCARS HOW DID YOU GET IT? Climbed onto a counter to get a plate out of the cupboard. Slipped getting down & smashed my mouth into the corner of the counter & have a small scar on my lower lip. 2. WHAT IS ON THE WALLS IN YOUR ROOM? 2 pictures - 1 of a raccoon struggling to stay on a branch & the other an oil painting of a witch. 3. WHAT DOES YOUR CELL PHONE LOOK LIKE? Red metal flip phone, kind of reminds me of Star Trek communicators. 4. WHAT MUSIC DO YOU LIKE TO LISTEN TO? Heavy metal, industrial, modern rock, celtic 5. DO YOU KNOW WHAT TIME YOU WERE BORN? Sometime around 3 PM 6. WHAT DO YOU WANT MORE THAN ANYTHING RIGHT NOW? To have enough $$$ so I can stop stressing over finances.....and a girlfriend. 7. WHAT DO YOU MISS AT TIMES? My sanity? 8. WHAT IS YOUR MOST PRIZED POSSESSION? My car 9. WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE SMELL(s)? Vanilla, roses, sandalwood 10. DO YOU GET CLAUSTROPHOBIC? Sometimes at very crowded parties. 11.IF YOU DIED TOMORROW: I'd be wondering if anyone missed me, & if I really made a difference. 12. THE LAST PERSON WHO MADE YOU CRY? My boss 13. WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE COLOGNE / PERFUME? I prefer essential oils, but I like Old Spice, Obsession & Opium. 14. WHAT KIND OF HAIR DO YOU LIKE ON THE OPPOSITE SEX? I don't really find the opposite sex interesting enough to care about their hairstyle. 15. WHERE CAN YOU SEE YOURSELF BEING PROPOSED TO AT? Well, I was proposed to in bed, after making love...and again the next morning, so I'd know he meant it. 16: DO YOU LIKE PORN? Yeah, if it's not too cheesy. 17. WHO IS THE LAST PERSON YOU MADE MAD? That *I* made mad? Probably Rik. 20. DO YOU SPEAK A DIFFERENT LANGUAGE? Un poco espanol. 21. WHAT WAS THE FIRST GIFT SOMEONE EVER GAVE YOU? Ever?? Probably had to be a book of some sort. 28. WOULD YOU FALL IN LOVE KNOWING THAT THE PERSON IS LEAVING? Define leaving....in a month, no. In a year, probably. 29. WHAT IS THE BEST WAY TO TELL SOMEONE HOW MUCH THEY MEAN TO YOU? Walk up to the person & say "do you know how important you are to me?" 30. SAY A NUMBER FROM ONE TO A HUNDRED: 13 31. BLONDES, REDHEADS OR BRUNETTES? All of the above...1 of each? :) 32. WHAT IS ONE NUMBER YOU CALL OFTEN? Vicki's cellphone 33. WHAT ANNOYS YOU MOST? People who lie, or who are intolerant or who are hypocrites 34. HAVE YOU EVER DONE A PRANK CALL? Yep! 39. WHAT WERE YOU DOING BEFORE YOU FILLED OUT THIS SURVEY? Reading Live Journal. 40. IF YOU COULD GET PLASTIC SURGERY, WHAT WOULD IT BE? I suppose it would depend on what I looked like when I finished losing weight. 41. WHY DID YOU FILL OUT THIS SURVEY? Because these things amuse me. 42. WHAT DO YOU LIKE ON YOUR PIZZA? Papa Murphys - Garlic ranch sauce, chicken, bacon & cheese 43. WHAT WOULD YOU DO IF ALCOHOL BECAME ILLEGAL? Actually, I think I would be a little happy. I've had too many alcoholics in my life. 44. WHAT DO YOU WANT FOR YOUR BIRTHDAY? Gift certificates are always nice. 45. WHAT WOULD YOU DO IF IT SUDDENLY STARTED RAINING? Nothing 46. WERE YOU NAMED AFTER ANYONE? Not that I know of. 47. DO YOU WISH ON STARS? Sometimes 48. WHICH FINGER[S] IS YOUR FAVORITE? Index 49. WHEN DID YOU LAST CRY? I'm not sure exactly, within the last 2 weeks. 50. DO YOU LIKE YOUR HANDWRITING? No, but I don't care enough to make it more legible. 51. WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE LUNCH MEAT? Turkey. 52. ANY BAD HABITS? Eating too much. 53. WHAT IS YOUR MOST EMBARRASSING CD ON THE SHELF? Maybe bagpipe music. 54. IF YOU WERE ANOTHER PERSON, WOULD YOU BE FRIENDS WITH YOU? Yeah, I think so. 55. HAVE YOU EVER TOLD A SECRET YOU SWORE NOT TO TELL? Yeah 56. DO LOOKS MATTER? Not really. 57. HOW DO YOU RELEASE ANGER? Listen to loud music 58. WHERE IS YOUR SECOND HOME? My imagination. 59. DO YOU TRUST OTHERS EASILY? Not really. 60. WHAT WAS YOUR FAVORITE TOY AS A CHILD? Barbies 61. WHAT CLASS IN SCHOOL DO YOU THINK IS TOTALLY USELESS? Basket weaving? :) 62. DO YOU HAVE A JOURNAL? I have Live Journal, and a paper journal that I kept from 17-23. 63. DO YOU USE SARCASM? When appropriate. 65. WHAT DO YOU LOOK FOR IN A GUY/GIRL? That it is a girl, and that she's intelligent. 66. WHAT ARE YOUR NICKNAMES? Bitch? 67. WOULD YOU BUNGEE JUMP? It looks fun, but I'm not sure I could get the guts up for it. 68. DO YOU UNTIE YOUR SHOELACES WHEN YOU TAKE OFF YOUR SHOES? Yes 69. DO YOU THINK THAT YOU HAVE STRONG POINTS? Yes 70. WHAT'S YOUR FAVORITE ICE CREAM FLAVOR? B&J Karamel Sutra 71. What is your shoe size? 10-11, depending on type 72. WHAT ARE YOUR FAVORITE COLORS? Purple, Burgundy 73. HOW MANY WISDOM TEETH DO YOU HAVE? None 74. WHO DO YOU MISS MOST RIGHT NOW? No one really, the people I'm closet to live with me. 75. DO YOU WANT EVERYONE TO ANSWER THESE QUESTIONS? Everyone? That's a lot of reading I'd have to do. 76. WHAT ARE YOU LISTENING TO RIGHT NOW? The buzzing of various electronics. 77. LAST THING YOU ATE? Dinty Moore Beef Stew mixed with Campbell's Tomato Ranchero 78. LAST PERSON YOU TALKED TO ON THE PHONE? Rik 79. THE FIRST THING YOU NOTICE IN THE OPPOSITE SEX? I don't much notice the opposite sex. 80. DO YOU LOVE THE PERSON WHO POSTED THIS? Love? No, but I think if we got to know each other better, I could love her in some way. 81. HOW ARE YOU TODAY? Cold, but happy. 82. FAVORITE DRINK? Chai tea 83. FAVORITE ALCOHOLIC DRINK? Mudslides, with extra chocolate 84. WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE SPORT? I like watching professional ice skating & pro-wrestling. I don't like participating insports. 85. HAIR COLOR? Dark Red 86. EYE COLOR? Blue 87.DO YOU WEAR GLASSES? Nope, got Lasik a few years ago. 88. SIBLINGS? None that I know of, I'm adopted. 89. FAVORITE MONTH? July 90. FAVORITE FOOD? Indian & Chinese 91. LAST MOVIE YOU WATCHED? Exorcist The Beginning 92. FAVORITE DAY OF THE YEAR? Halloween & Christmas 93. ARE YOU TOO SHY TO ASK SOMEONE OUT? YES!!! 94. SUMMER OR WINTER? Summer 95. HUGS OR KISSES? Depends on who you are. 96. RELATIONSHIPS OR ONE NIGHT STANDS? Relationships 97. WHO IS THE MOST LIKELY TO ANSWER THESE QUESTIONS? Anyone who's as bored as I am? 98. WHO IS THE LEAST LIKELY TO ANSWER THESE QUESTIONS? Rik 99. WHAT BOOKS ARE YOU READING? Gibson & Sterling - Difference Engine 100. WHAT'S ON YOUR MOUSE PAD? I don't have one. 101. FAVORITE BOARD GAME? Monopoly & Risk. 102. WHAT DID YOU WATCH ON TV LAST NIGHT? Myth Busters 103. WHO WERE YOU WITH LAST NIGHT? Rik & Vicki 104. WHAT IS THE FIRST THING YOU THINK OF WHEN YOU WAKE UP? I'm not conscious enough to be thinking. 105. SAY SOMETHING NICE ABOUT THE PERSON WHO POSTED THIS? Courtney is a lovely person & a good friend.

Guess What? It's a MEME

1. Sleep with or without clothes on? Depends on the weather. At the very least, I usually have panties on. 2. Prefer black or blue pens? Purple 3. Dress up on Halloween? Always, and not just on Halloween. 4. Like to travel? Yeah, rarely can afford the places I really want to go to though. 5. Like someone? Shall I start naming names? C, L, M, N, J... 6. Do they know? Most likely....I'm not terribly subtle. 7. Who sleeps with you every night? My husband 8. Think you're attractive? Sometimes 9. Want to get married? I AM married, over 11 years now. 10. To? The guy I married seems to be doing ok so far. :) 11. Are you a good student? Yeah 12. Are you currently happy? Yes, for the most part. 13. Have you ever been skinnydipping? Yes 14. Birthplace? Roscommon, Michigan 15. Christmas or Halloween? Christmas for the presents, Halloween for the freak factor. 16. Colored or black-and-white photo? Depends on what the picture is of. 17. Do long distance relationships work? Not for me personally. 18. Do you believe in astrology? A little 20. Do you believe in love at first sight? I used to. 21. Do you consider yourself the life of the party? Not even close. 22. Do you drink? Not often. Alcoholism runs in the family, so I try to keep it to a minimum. 23. Do you make fun of people? Not where they can hear me. :) 24. Do you think dreams eventually come true? If you work for them, yes. If you expect them on a silver platter, no. 25. Favorite fictional character? Oh hell, too many to think of. Scarlett O'Hara for starters. 26. Go to the movies or rent? Depends on the movie, usually rent since movies are so expenisve. 27. Have you ever moved? 7/70-9/89: Michigan, Indiana, Illinois, Indiana, South Dakota, Kansas, Oklahoma, Arizona, California, Arizona, Michigan 9/89-Now: California (12 times since 9/89, all Greater Bay Area) 28. Have you ever stolen anything? Yes 29. How's the weather right now? Cold & dreary 30. Hug or kiss? Depends on who wants one, both if it's someone I really like. 31. Last person you talked to on the phone? Rik, getting grocery list. 32. Loud or Soft Music? Loud, preferably heavy metal or industrial 33. McDonalds or Burger King? KFC 34. Night or day? Night 35. Number of Pillows? Either 1 really fluffy one, or 2 thinnish ones 36. Piano or guitar? Piano 37. Future job? Sex Education of some sort 38. Current job? Human Resources, benefits & compensation 39. Current love? Life 40. Current longing? To be ravished by several of the women on my friends list. :) 41. Current disappointment? Not having my BA in Human Sexuality & opening my bookstore. 42. Current annoyance? The VP of HR at my job 43. Last thing you ate? Homemade burrito type thing with ground beef & turkey. 44. Last thing you bought? Fixings for the dinner in #43. 45. Most recent thing you are looking forward to? Party this coming Saturday 46. What are you hearing right now? Supernatural on WB 47. Plans for this weekend? The party mentioned in #45, and cleaning out my closet. 48. What did you do today? Worked, then worked out.

Halloween with the Cary's

http://www.perfessorevil.com/halloween_2005.asp

I *am* Satan!

I found the best shoes for my Halloween outfit! http://www.converse.com/zproductdetails.asp?leftnavid=1&zgenid=1&sku=1Q069

FOR COURTNEY

Hey, these would go with your camo skirt.... http://www.torrid.com/store/product.asp?LS=0&RN=208&ITEM=539724

Ever have 1 of those days....

Where you wish everyone would fawn over you & tell you how great they think you are? NOT because your vain & self-centered....but because for some reason you're just a bit down & could really use the ego boost.... then to make it worse.....ever feel irritated because it's not happening....then you turn around & get mad at yourself for being irritated at other people for something they don't even know about??

EEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE BOUNCY BOUNCY BOUNCY BOING

I GOT PROMOTED & A RAISE & NOW REPORT TO SOMEONE ELSE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I don't have a lot of details yet, because the whole thing is still being worked out. 1. Whatever is happening will be "effective" 10/31. 2. 1st I'm getting my normal annual review, which has the potential of a 2.00% to 4.50% raise. Once that happens, then my salary for my new position will be an additional 4.00% on top of the salary from my review. 3. I will now be reporting to the CEO & only the CEO. 4. I will still be doing most of what I do now with HR, benefits & payroll. They will be hiring a clerk/receptionist to take my place up front, as well as a HR Manager. What HR duties I have beyond Payroll & benefits will be determined once we hire & train these 2 people. 5. I will be the lead for keeping track of all of the documentation for our new lending division, Participation Loans. Basically, these are multi-million dollar business loans that we go into with other credit unions. Apparently these loans generate a huge amount of paperwork & the Auditors just love it when something is missing, wrong, or out of place. In the future I might actually start working on these loans as some sort of loan officer. 6. When (not if) my current boss, the VP of HR retires, I will be getting her office. Ok folks.....that's everything I know now. More details to come as I get them

Correlations

I'm beginning to think that there is some odd relationship here.... the less I am some woman's type....the more interested I will be in her. I swear if it's not dominant women that are catching my interest....it's the ones who are for all intents & purposes....heterosexual. Or....the women who prefer submissives, or ones who prefer a different flavor of dominance than I project, or the ones who prefer butches, bois, and/or androgynous women.... Or, they like their women smaller than me....or monogamous, or lesbian.... It's always something I'm not.....and I always seem to want the ones that I can't have.

Following the Herd

If you woke up and I was in bed with you, what would be your first thought? Reply here, then post the above line in your own journal.

RANT ALERT, RANT ALERT....YOU'VE BEEN WARNED!!

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Hey Courtney....

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what sexual things do your friends think about you? LiveJournal Username Age Favorite ice cream Favorite season SummerSpringWinterFallWhat are seasons? Thinks your ass is tight: boot_slut Wants to lick hot chocolate off your body: jkuroda Wonders how good you are in bed: masochisticgrrl Wishes you would screw him on the spot: elijah782 Is romatically in love with you: musicwomyn Wishes you were gay so he could love you better: originalmanley Hopes you'll take her to great heights (wink wink nudge nudge): courtneydisney Day dreams about having sex with you 24/7: realitydaytrip This Fun Quiz created by Molly at BlogQuiz.Net

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Missing the Obvious?

OK....since just about everyone who reads this is queer &/or kinky to some degree....maybe you can help me with some suggestions. and before you answer....YES, I've been Googling this stuff already. I'm just looking for a more direct route than clicking on hundreds of links which might only have 1-2 that are really useful. :) 1. Does anyone know of any job hunting sites that are specifically geared for diverse workplaces? (IE, a queer/kink friendly version of monster.com) 2. The porn/adult (toys, movies, , magazine/books, other types of media) industry....surely the bigger companies/websites/whatever have some sort of administrative support structure.....besides looking at every dang site & hunting for the 'about us/corporate' button (which let me tell you can be well hidden).....where do you think they post their admin. related positions? I've been thinking more & more lately.....I should try working for a company that I might be genuinely interested in who they are & what they do.....and barring that, at the very least, a company that has a healthy sprinkling of queer/kinky people in it's employee pool. So...since I'm looking for work in non-traditional places, I'm thinking I need to try non-traditional methods of job hunting.

Let's Play Dress-up

Glamorous Soul 53% Tastefulness, 50% Originality, 71% Deliberateness, 84% Sexiness

[Tasteful Original Deliberate Sexy] You choose your outfits carefully according to many criteria. You don't like looking cheap, dull or random and you go to great lengths to avoid this. You are successful, too. People admire your taste and sex appeal. Many try to imitate you but not many can recreate your unique style. Sometimes, however, they find you too intimidating to approach. If you don't wear retro style yet, perhaps you should consider it. It would become greatly your sexy, mysterious self. The opposite style from yours is Fashion Enemy [Flamboyant Conventional Random Prissy]. All the categories: Fashion Enemy Bar Cruiser Kid Next Door Sex Bomb Hippie Kid Fashion Rebel Fashion Artist Catwalk God(ess) Librarian Sporty Hottie Office Master Uptown Girl/ Boy Brainy Student Movie Star Fashionista Glamorous Soul

My test tracked 4 variables How you compared to other people your age and gender: You scored higher than 27% on Tastefulness You scored higher than 48% on Originality You scored higher than 89% on Deliberateness You scored higher than 99% on Sexiness

Link: The Fashion Style Test written by mari-e on OkCupid Free Online Dating, home of the 32-Type Dating Test

Just 32

It probably won't get lower, since my 'no' answers were for things that I have no interest in.

Very Kinky You are 32% pure!

My test tracked 1 variable How you compared to other people your age and gender: You scored higher than 16% on purity

Link: The 100 Point Sexual Purity Test written by ocicat on Ok Cupid, home of the 32-Type Dating Test

What's in a name

Stolen from MusicWomyn 1. YOUR PORN STAR NAME (name of pet, street you grew up on) Tye Phillips 2. YOUR MOVIE STAR NAME (grandmother on father's side first name, favorite snack) Rose Sweets 3. YOUR FASHION DESIGNER NAME (first word you see on your left, favorite restaurant) Noire Carino 4. YOUR "FLY GIRL/GUY" NAME (first initial of first name, first three letters of your last name) H-Car 5. YOUR DETECTIVE NAME (favorite animal, name of high school) Snake Carlmont 6. YOUR SOAP OPERA NAME (middle name, name of city where you were born) Colleen Roscommon 7. YOUR OPPOSITE SEX NAME (name of sibling/parent [opposite sex], cell phone company you use) Michael Cingular 8. YOUR STAR WARS NAME (first 3 letters of your last name, last 3 letters of mother's maiden name, first 3 letters of your pet's name) Car Whi Cab

Hollow Weenie - NOT

It looks like we're not having a party after all. #1 - We're tyring this new lifestyle habit....called saving $$$, and we're having a hard time justifying the outlay of a few hundred $$$ for a party at this point in time. #2 - Most of the people I know are already going to 1 of 2 BDSM oriented parties that same night & Most of the people Rik would like to see are going to other Halloween related events that night. SO....due to lack of funds & potential lack of attendees....there will be no Halloween Party this year.

BOLD what I agreed with

Global Personality Test Results

Stability (40%) moderately low which suggests you are worrying, insecure, emotional, and anxious. Orderliness (63%) moderately high which suggests you are, at times, overly organized, reliable, neat, and hard working at the expense of flexibility, efficiency, spontaneity, and fun. Extraversion (83%) high which suggests you are overly talkative, outgoing, sociable and interacting at the expense too often of developing your own individual interests and internally based identity.

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trait snapshot: self revealing (Hell I let ya'll read this journal), neat, craves attention, prefers organized to unpredictable, needs things to be extremely clean (they obviously haven't seen my house...), worrying, perfectionist, emotionally sensitive, respects authority, social, vain, does not like to be alone (painfully true), likes large parties, controlling, social chameleon, not a thrill seeker, enjoys leadership, takes precautions, puts the needs of others ahead of their own (used to be too often, I think I'm learning to understand that I'm important too), assertive, rule conscious, makes friends easily, always busy, heart over mind, phobic, aggressive, clingy, compassionate, dominant, outgoing, suspicious (sometimes I wonder at the motives of others....just why are they being nice to me?), hard working, strong I have to say, it's interesting the negative spin they put on all the descriptions.

Yeah......Probably

Kinky You scored 75 sexpoints!

Well, I am impressed. You've probably had a bdsm relationship before, or at least some experience with its themes. You see the magic in a paddle and feel the wonder in a newly trained sex slave. I bet you own a latex corset, maybe some thigh highs that match? Kudos! You would short out my circuits with that juice'm. Rarr!

My test tracked 1 variable How you compared to other people your age and gender: You scored higher than 67% on sexpoints

Link: The Unconventional Sex Test written by thefuckpit on OkCupid Free Online Dating, home of the 32-Type Dating Test

Preview of the Weekend

Saturday noonish - Sunday 10ish.....Kamp Kink Sunday 11ish - Sunday 5ish.....Casa de Faira Hope to see some friends at either location. Kisses!

Hollow Weenie

Just to put it out there....I'll most likely be having a Halloween Party on Saturday the 29th. It will be fairly vanilla, as there will be children, neighbors & co-workers there. So, more details to follow (as soon as hubby makes the invitation) :) 10PM - Addition - This is a locked post for a specific reason. There are a few people who read my LJ who I do not want in my home....so, this post is going out to the 'Party List.'

Is it really that easy?

I read this on MSN.com, in the Gay/Lesbian dating section. The person seeking advice was writing in about how to deal with her girlfriend being overly flirtatious when she's drinking. Part of the column that really grabbed me is below.... By Dave Singleton I want to share with you one of the best pieces of advice about making a relationship work that I’ve ever heard. This little pearl of wisdom came from the mother of a friend of mine. I asked her how she’d made her marriage of 30 years work successfully, and she replied, "Find out what really bothers your mate—and then don’t do that."

Hey look, more shit about me

First Name:	Heather
Middle Name:	Colleen
Birthday:	7/27/1970
Eyes:	blue
Hair:	burgundy
Fav color:	purple
Day/Night:	either
Fave Food:	currently, Indian
FRIENDS AND LIFE
Do you ever wish you had another name?	Valia
Do you like anyone?	I like lots of people.
Which one of your friends acts the most like you?	Like me? No one that I can think of.
Who's the loudest?	Me
Who have you known the longest of your friends?	Kirsten since 1989.
Who's the shyest:	strangely enough, me.
Are you close to any family members?	no
When you cried the most:	probably going through a breakup.
What's the best feeling in the world:	loving & being loved.
FINISH EACH SENTENCE:
Let's walk on the:	wild side.
Let's run through:	a field of flowers.
Let's look at the:	beach at sunset.
What a nice:	necklace.
Where did all the:	yesterdays go.
Why can't you:	see it my way.
Silly, little:	rwabbit, trix are for kids.
Tell me:	what you see in me.
HAVE YOU:
Ran away from home:	one time, only got about 2 miles away.
Pictured your crush naked:	frequently.
Skipped school:	2 times.
Broken someone's heart:	probably.
Been in love:	Often.
Cried when someone died:	no
Wanted someone you knew you couldn't have:	every day.
Done something embarrassing:	hm....7 years of Rocky Horror?
Done a drug:	speed
Cried in school:	quite a few times.
RANDOM
Your Good Luck Charm:	I don't think I have one.
Person You Hate Most:	I dislike a few people, but I haven't truly hated for a while now.
Best Thing That Has Happened:	Getting married, graduating
Ice Cream:	Hagen Daz Midnight Cookies & Cream (sadly, no longer made)
WHO Makes you laugh the most:	Rik
Makes you smile:	Rik
Has A Crush On You:	No one that I know of
Do You Have A Crush On Someone:	Several people
HAVE YOU EVER
Fallen for your best friend?:	Yeah, we dated for 2 years, and now barely talk.
Made out with JUST a friend?:	yes
Kissed two people in the same day?:	more than that
Had sex with two different people in the same day?:	yes, a few times
Been rejected: .	a lot
Been in love?:	quite a few times
Been used?:	yeah, more than once
Done something you regret?:	yeah
Cheated on someone?:	yeah
Been called a tease:	probably
WHO WAS THE LAST PERSON...
You touched?:	Rik
You talked to on the phone?:	Vicki
You hugged?:	Rik
You instant messaged?:	George
You kissed?:	Rik
You yelled at?:	I don't yell all that often
Who text messaged you?:	George
Who broke your heart?:	I think it was mutual....Dana
Who told you they loved you?:	Rik
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Casa de Faira

Rik, myself & a friend of ours on leave from the USAF, will be making the trek to Casa de Faira on October 9....a week from tomorrow. Anyone going who wants to hook up? Gimme a ring. Hopefully my phone'll work better in Gilroy/Hollister than it did up at Lake Stafford Park. 707-567-9510

Knowing it was going to happen doesn't make me less PISSED

Schwarzenegger Vetoes Gay Marriage Bill Source: kcbs Publication date: 2005-09-29 (KCBS/AP) - Gov. Arnold Schwarzenegger has vetoed a landmark bill legalizing same-sex marriage in California. "This bill simply adds confusion to a constitutional issue," the Republican governor said in a veto message. "If the ban of same-sex marriage is unconstitutional this bill is not necessary. If the ban is constitutional this bill is ineffective." Schwarzenegger had promised to veto the bill, saying the issue should be decided by voters or the courts. Earlier this month, the legislature became the first lawmaking body in the nation to legalize gay marriage without a court order when it passed AB849 by a razor-thin majority. The law would have nullified a Prop. 22, a 2000 referendum which defined legal marriage as an institution between one man and one woman. In March, San Francisco Superior Court Judge Richard Kramer issued a decision to overturn that law. The attorney general is now asking an appeals court to reinstate the law because California already has granted most of the rights and duties of marriage to same-sex couples registered with the state as domestic partners. AB849's author, San Francisco Assemblyman Mark Leno, said Prop. 22 contradicts Article I of California's constitution. "[It] very simply states that a citizen or class of citizens may not be granted privileges not granted on the same terms to all citizens," Leno told KCBs. "That is the foundation stone of our democracy and he cares to ignore it." Leno called on the governor to join him in sponsoring another gay marriage bill during the next legislative session that would go before voters on a referendum ballot. "The governor wants to duck and say we don't have a representative democracy in California. We have to go to the voters or the court. Of course, when we go to the courts and win the opposition says we have activist judges," said Leno. The governor refused to meet with Leno and a lesbian family in the days prior to the veto. "I in my heart believe that if we were to join hands, Republicans and Democrats together," said Leno, "then we could pass this at the ballot." The governor's office refused two calls from KCBS seeking comment on Thursday afternoon. (Copyright 2005 by KCBS. All rights reserved. The Associated Press contributed to this report.) (updated 4:23pm, jro)

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FOR CRITTER

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My Folsom Plans

Saturday morning - Go to Fairfield & drop my car off for the FINAL touches. I'm getting a protective coating put on (for free) that's supposed to help minimize damage from weather, dirt, birds & the like. Saturday 2pm-7pm - Women's Party at the Citadel. Unless something changes w/ the Bay Bridge closures, Vicki & I will be BARTing for this. After the party, it's BACK to Fairfield to get my car. Sunday - FOLSOM FOLSOM FOLSOM!! Again, Vicki & I are BARTing in. Unless we both get too worn out, we're going from open to close. Want to see me? Let me know and/or call my cell. :)

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Once I figure out how, I might grab a few of these.

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